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Acknowledgments | |
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Introducing Your Toolshop Tour Guide | |
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Touring The Parent's Toolshop | |
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Another Parenting Book? | |
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What The Parent's Toolshop Does | |
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The Universal Blueprint | |
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Suggestions for Use | |
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Prevention Toolbox | |
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Foundation-Building Toolset | |
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Establishing a Common Language | |
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What Are Our Parenting Goals? | |
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Parenting Styles | |
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Parenting as a Team | |
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Attitude Adjustment Tools | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Detailed Answers | |
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The Universal Blueprint | |
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Balancing Logic and Emotion | |
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Types of Problems | |
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The Universal Response Formula | |
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Identifying Problem Types | |
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Tips for Tots to Teens | |
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Nobody Said Parenting Was Easy | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Detailed Answers | |
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Self-Esteem Toolset | |
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What Is Self-Esteem? | |
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Encouragement Versus Praise | |
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Self-Esteem Tools | |
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Is Praise Ever Okay? | |
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Encourage Yourself | |
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Important Points About Encouragement | |
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The Language of Encouragement | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Possible Answers | |
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Cooperation Toolset | |
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The Difference Between Cooperation and Obedience | |
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Cooperation Tools | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Possible Answers | |
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Independence Toolset | |
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The Balance of Independence | |
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Developing Responsibility | |
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Independence Tools | |
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Tips for Tots to Teens | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Possible Answers | |
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Child Problem Toolbox | |
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Taking over Child Problems | |
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F-A-X Listening Toolset | |
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Peeling Onions | |
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Fax Communication | |
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Problem-Solving Styles | |
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Communication Barriers | |
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F-A-X Listening | |
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Step B1: Focus on Feelings | |
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Tips for Tots and Teens | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Possible Answers | |
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Problem-Solving Toolset | |
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Step B2: Ask Helpful Questions | |
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Step B3: X-amine Possible Solutions | |
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When to Move from Step to Step | |
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Variations of Problem Solving | |
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Use a Problem-Solving Worksheet | |
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Common Child Problems | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Possible Answers | |
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Parent Problem Toolbox | |
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Where We Are in the Universal Blueprint | |
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Keep Your Cool Toolset | |
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What Is Anger? | |
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Steps of Constructive Anger/Stress Management | |
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Resistance to Change | |
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Dealing with Others' Anger and Stress | |
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Practice-Use an Anger Log | |
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Clear Communication Toolset | |
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Styles of Communication | |
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Nonverbal Communication | |
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Clear Communication Tools | |
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Tips for Tots and Teens | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Possible Answers | |
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PU Toolset (Unintentional Misbehavior) | |
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Identifying PU Problems | |
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Using the Universal Blueprint | |
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Step C2: Redirecting PU Behavior | |
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Common PU Behaviors | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Detailed Answers | |
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PO Toolset ("On Purpose" Misbehavior) | |
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Identifying PO Problems | |
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The Importance of the Universal Blueprint | |
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PO Tools | |
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The Four Types of PO Behavior | |
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Important Points to Remember | |
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PO Combination Problems | |
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The Goals of Adult Misbehavior | |
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Lying | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Detailed Answers | |
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Discipline Toolset | |
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The Difference Between Punishment and Discipline | |
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Long-Term Consequences of Punishment | |
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Discipline Tools | |
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Using the Decision-Making Worksheet | |
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Practice Exercises | |
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Detailed Answers | |
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Maintenance Toolbox | |
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Family Council Toolset | |
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The Purpose of Family Councils | |
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The Benefits of Family Councils | |
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Family Council Roles | |
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Format Options | |
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Getting Started--The First Few Meetings | |
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Family Councils Use All the Tools | |
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Family Council Trouble-Shooting Guide | |
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Agenda/Activity Ideas | |
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Practice | |
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Detailed Answers | |
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Three C's: Consistency, Criticism, Confidence | |
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Increasing Consistency | |
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Handling Criticism and Unhelpful Advice | |
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Practice | |
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Possible Answers | |
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Maintaining Your Confidence | |
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Closing | |
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Appendix | |
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Glossary of Terms | |
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Index | |