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| Foreword | |
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| Preface | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| What Is Relationship Violence? | |
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| Emotional Abuse | |
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| Physical Abuse | |
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| Sexual Abuse | |
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| Technology Abuse | |
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| What Teens Say about Ways They Have Been Abused | |
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| Dynamics of Abusive Relationships | |
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| Recognizing the Warning Signs | |
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| Signs of Abuse | |
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| If Your Daughter Is Seeing a Gang Member | |
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| If Your Son or Daughter Is in a Same-Sex Relationship | |
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| Recognizing Trauma | |
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| Helping Your Teen to Recognize Warning Signs | |
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| Speaking the Unspeakable: Talking to Your Teens about Sexual Violence | |
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| Teen Attitudes | |
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| Teens at Risk | |
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| Sexual Coercion | |
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| Sexting and Texting | |
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| Reproductive Coercion | |
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| Coerced Sex for Money | |
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| Effects of Sexual Abuse | |
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| What Parents Can Do | |
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| What Keeps Them Together? | |
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| Why He Abuses | |
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| Why She Stays | |
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| Skills for Healthy Relationships | |
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| Characteristics of Healthy Relationships | |
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| Skills for Sustaining Healthy Relationships | |
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| Parenting for Healthy Relationships | |
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| Developmental Vulnerabilities and Strengths | |
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| Parents' Roles | |
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| Guidelines for Conversations with Teens | |
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| Teaching Teens to Be Safe | |
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| Teaching Your Teens to Protect Themselves | |
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| Effects on the Family | |
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| Effects on Parents | |
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| Effects on Siblings | |
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| Getting Off the Rollercoaster | |
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| Dialing Down the Drama | |
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| Gathering Information | |
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| Getting Help for Yourself | |
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| Setting Limits | |
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| Managing Your Reactions | |
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| Strengthening Your Relationship with Your Teen | |
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| Accepting Teens' Choices | |
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| Open Communication | |
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| Effective Listening | |
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| Recognizing Your Feelings | |
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| Using Your Influence as a Parent | |
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| Avoiding Power Struggles | |
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| Taking Action to Intervene | |
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| Assessing the Situation | |
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| Planning for Safety | |
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| Involving Family and Friends | |
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| Breaking Up | |
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| Guiding Your Teen through a Breakup | |
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| After Breaking Up | |
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| Post-Breakup Safety | |
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| Emotional Reactions after the Breakup | |
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| If the Violence Stops | |
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| Committing to Change | |
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| Safety Alert | |
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| Getting Help: Counseling, Schools, and the Legal System | |
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| Resources for Parents | |
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| Schools as a Resource | |
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| Using the Legal System | |
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| Current Laws | |
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| Restraining Orders | |
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| Legal Resources | |
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| Stalking as a Tactic of Abuse | |
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| Cultural Strengths and Challenges | |
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| Cultural Influences | |
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| Building on Cultural Strengths | |
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| Confronting Your Culture | |
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| For Parents of Abusive Teens | |
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| Recognizing Abusive Behavior | |
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| When Girls Abuse | |
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| Confronting Your Teen about Abusive Behavior | |
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| Contacting the Victim of Your Teen's Abuse | |
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| The Parent's Emotional Rollercoaster | |
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| Seeking Support | |
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| For Parents of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transgender Teens | |
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| What Parents Can Do | |
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| Healing | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Your Safety Plan Checklist | |
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| Characteristics of Healthy Relationships | |
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| Guidelines for Conversations with Teens about Healthy Relationships | |
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| Resources | |
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| Notes | |
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| About the Authors | |