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| Dedication | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| The Basics | |
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| Introduction | |
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| What This Book Is About | |
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| The Five Essential Qualities of Self-Directed Children | |
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| Understanding Internal vs. External Direction | |
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| The Game Plan | |
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| Seven Strategies for Raising | |
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| Self-Directed Children | |
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| Creating the Proper Family Environment | |
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| Eliminating Elements That Foster External Direction | |
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| A Word about Sibling Influences | |
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| The Importance of a Family Identity | |
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| Helping Children Develop Healthy Internal Dialogue | |
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| Eight Techniques to Encourage Introspection | |
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| Derailing Unhealthy Internal Dialogue | |
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| Helping Them Confront Their Unhealthy Internal Dialogue | |
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| Helping Them Rebound from the Effects of Facing the Truth | |
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| Helping Them Find Solutions through Honest, Healthy Internal Dialogue | |
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| Modeling Our Own Inner Honesty for Our Children | |
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| Helping Children Develop Natural Intuition | |
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| Modeling the Use of Our Own Intuitive Powers | |
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| Encouraging Them to Follow Their Own Hunches | |
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| Teaching Children How to Strengthen Their Intuitive Powers | |
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| Playing Intuition Games | |
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| Keeping an Intuition Journal | |
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| Teaching Children How to Receive Intuitive Signals More Clearly | |
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| Teaching Children Empathy | |
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| Teaching Children How "Benevolent Selfishness" Works | |
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| Helping Children Understand Others by Using the "Empathy Triad" | |
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| Helping Children Develop Empathy through Service | |
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| Helping Children Use Internal Dialogue to Develop Empathy | |
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| Helping Children Develop Empathy through Role Play | |
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| Using "I Messages" to Teach Children Empathy | |
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| Modeling Empathy | |
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| Teaching Children Empathy by Not Criticizing the Unfortunate | |
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| Disciplining to Promote Internal Direction | |
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| What It Means to Discipline in a Way That Promotes Internal Direction | |
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| The Twelve Basic Requirements of Self-Directed Discipline | |
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| Eight Discipline Techniques That Encourage Self-Direction | |
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| Helping Children Rebound from Failure | |
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| Discussing Our Own Mistakes with Our Children | |
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| Not Denying Opportunities to Excel As a Consequence for Misbehavior | |
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| Sharing Lessons We've Learned from Our Own Mistakes | |
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| Teaching the Value of Failed Attempts | |
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| Teaching Children to Strive for Personal Excellence, Not Perfection | |
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| Using Mistake Contests | |
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| Downplaying Past Failures | |
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| Teaching "Failure Tolerance" by Not Over-reacting to Mistakes | |
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| Encouraging Mistakes | |
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| Encouraging Independence | |
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| Teaching How to Separate Failures from Self-Worth | |
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| Accepting Suffering As a Good Thing | |
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| Helping Children Handle Real-World Influences | |
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| Drugs and Alcohol | |
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| Violence among Children | |
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| Modern Technology | |
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| The Hurried Life | |
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| Consumerism vs. Simplicity | |
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| Sexuality | |
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| Body Image and the Perception of Beauty | |
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| The Winner-Loser Mentality and Competition | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Specific Child-Rearing Challenges | |
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| Level System for Teenagers | |
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| Resources | |
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| Index | |