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| Preface | |
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| What Excellent Mentors Do: Matters of Skill | |
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| Choose Proteges Selectively | |
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| Know Your Proteges | |
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| Expect Excellence (and Nothing Else) | |
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| Affirm, Affirm, Affirm, and Then Affirm Some More | |
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| Provide Sponsorship | |
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| Be a Teacher and a Coach | |
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| Encourage and Support | |
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| Offer Counsel in Difficult Times | |
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| Protect When Necessary | |
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| Stimulate Growth with Challenging Assignments | |
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| Give Proteges Exposure and Promote Their Visibility | |
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| Nurture Creativity | |
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| Provide Correction--Even When Painful | |
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| Narrate Growth and Development | |
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| Self-disclose When Appropriate | |
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| Accept Increasing Friendship and Mutuality | |
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| Teach Faceting | |
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| Be An Intentional Model | |
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| Display Dependability | |
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| Traits of Excellent Mentors: Matters of Style and Personality | |
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| Exude Warmth | |
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| Listen Actively | |
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| Show Unconditional Regard | |
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| Tolerate Idealization | |
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| Embrace Humor | |
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| Do Not Expect Perfection | |
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| Attend to Interpersonal Cues | |
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| Be Trustworthy | |
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| Respect Values | |
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| Do Not Stoop to Jealousy | |
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| Arranging the Mentor-Protege Relationship: Matters of Beginning | |
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| Carefully Consider the "Match" | |
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| Clarify Expectations | |
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| Define Relationship Boundaries | |
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| Consider Protege Relationship Style | |
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| Describe Potential Benefits and Risks | |
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| Be Sensitive to Gender | |
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| Be Sensitive to Race | |
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| Plan for Change at the Outset | |
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| Schedule Periodic Reviews or Evaluations | |
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| Knowing Thyself as a Mentor: Matters of Integrity | |
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| Consider the Consequences of Being a Mentor | |
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| Practice Self-Care | |
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| Be Productive | |
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| Make Sure You are Competent | |
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| Hold Yourself Accountable | |
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| Respect the Power of Attraction | |
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| Accept the Burden of Power | |
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| Practice Humility | |
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| Never Exploit Proteges | |
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| When Things Go Wrong: Matters of Restoration | |
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| Above All, Do No Harm | |
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| Slow Down the Process | |
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| Tell the Truth | |
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| Seek Consultation | |
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| Document Carefully | |
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| Dispute Your Irrational Thinking | |
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| Welcoming Change and Saying Goodbye: Matters of Closure | |
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| Welcome Change and Growth | |
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| Accept Endings | |
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| Find Helpful Ways to Say Goodbye | |
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| Mentor as a Way of Life | |