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| List of Tables | |
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| Foreword | |
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| Acknowledgements | |
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| Cyber-Relationships, the Story so Far | |
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| A brief history of the internet: From the defence force to human relationships | |
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| Online relationships: Cueless, shallow, and hostile or close and friendly? | |
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| Cyberspace: A place for the lonely to hang out? | |
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| Too much too soon: Boom or bust phenomena | |
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| Real relationships in cyberspace | |
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| Cyberspace: More radical opportunities for relationship development | |
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| More cues than meet the eye | |
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| SIDE model | |
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| SIP: Social information processing theory | |
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| Hyperpersonal communication | |
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| Cyberspace: A place to be more liberated | |
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| Sex in cyberspace | |
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| More self-disclosure online | |
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| True self versus actual self | |
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| Moving it offline successfully | |
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| Keeping up with the times | |
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| Developing a theory towards explaining cyber-relating | |
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| From Courtly Love to Cyber-Flirting | |
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| Vacillating from the home to the outside world | |
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| Romantic love in the postmodern era: How different is it? | |
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| Offline signals: The crucial place of non-verbal signals | |
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| Conceptualising cyberspace | |
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| Cyber-flirting: New rules | |
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| Cyber-flirting: Old rules | |
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| Bodies on internet dating sites | |
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| Playing at Love: Winnicott and Potential Space | |
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| The psychodynamics of play: The work of Donald Woods Winnicott | |
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| Winnicott and cyberspace | |
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| Cyberspace as a potential space for psychological growth and 'liberation'? | |
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| Object-relations theories: Regressive behaviour and splitting | |
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| Object-relations theories and the circulation of quasi-objects: A 'ball' in play | |
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| Identity | |
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| Object Engagement and Dysfunctional Aspects of Relating Online | |
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| Psychodynamics of object engagement: The work of Christopher Bollas | |
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| Object engagement and attachment: Dysfunctional and unhealthy outcomes | |
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| The generational character of objects | |
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| Cyber-Cheating: Can We Really be Liberated in Cyberspace? | |
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| Not all teddy bears are transitional | |
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| Internet infidelity | |
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| Splitting the good from the bad in cyberspace | |
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| Other problematic online relationships | |
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| Deviance and Cyberspace | |
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| The Numa Numa dance | |
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| Internet addiction | |
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| Cyber-harassment | |
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| Rape in cyberspace | |
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| Paedophilia | |
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| Misrepresentation of self online | |
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| Online Dating: Shopping for Love on the internet | |
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| Motivations for using an online dating site | |
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| Different paces for different spaces: Progression from online to offline | |
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| Online and offline attraction: Is it all that different? | |
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| All based on the first meeting | |
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| A numbers game | |
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| Filtering through the lies | |
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| Cliched self: Too many people strolling on the beach sipping red wine | |
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| Seeking out the 'true' self online | |
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| Strategies used to compose one's own profile: Which 'self' to present? | |
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| Online dating strategies: How to play the game | |
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| Conclusions about online dating | |
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| Characters and Archetypes in Cyberspace | |
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| Character type: The psychodynamic entree | |
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| Character type, change, and cyberspace | |
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| Character type and cyberspace: Research findings | |
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| Jung on archetypes | |
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| Visions of the Future | |
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| The future of online dating: Waxing or waning? | |
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| Bluetoothing and blogging for love | |
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| Like kids in a lolly shop | |
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| Writing as therapy | |
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| Online psychotherapy | |
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| The future of sex in cyberspace | |
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| Ethical considerations for future online research | |
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| On a 'concluding note' | |
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| Notes | |
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| References | |
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| Author Index | |
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| Subject Index | |