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| Acknowledgements | |
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| Introduction | |
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| My Journey | |
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| Finding the Juicy Stuff | |
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| Viewpoint | |
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| Organization of the Book | |
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| Who Will Benefit from Reading This Book | |
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| Religion in Perspective | |
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| Religious Foreplay | |
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| Anna and Joe | |
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| Choices | |
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| Living a Lie | |
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| Toxic Trio | |
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| Religious Sexual Terrorism: Fear Is the Foreplay | |
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| A Thought Experiment: Unbuttoning Religion | |
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| Buttons in Your Life | |
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| Sex and Pushing Buttons | |
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| You Can Take Religion out of Sex, But You Can't Take Sex out of Religion | |
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| Putting the "Fun" Back in "Fundamental" | |
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| Our Limited Sexual Maps | |
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| Religious Maps | |
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| Don't Defile Yourself (or you will go blind) | |
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| Sexual Restriction | |
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| Screwing With Religious Myths | |
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| Common Myths | |
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| Myth: Christians are Monogamous | |
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| Myth: Jesus Makes Marriage Better | |
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| Did Jesus Masturbate? and Other Interesting Thoughts | |
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| Jesus: Married, Non-Existent, Female or Closeted Gay? | |
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| What Happened to the Women and Children? | |
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| Inconvenient Women and Children | |
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| Rewriting History | |
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| Christian Asexuality | |
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| Mary Was a Virgin | |
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| Masturbation: The Single-Handed Sin | |
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| Why Are Jews Monogamous? | |
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| Why Are Christians Monogamous? | |
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| The Shame of It All | |
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| Shame vs. Guilt | |
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| Shame and the Family | |
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| Islam, the Shame Religion | |
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| Male Shame | |
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| Shame and Modern Cults | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Mind Police and Thought Control | |
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| Religious Police | |
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| The Guilt Cycle, or the Police Officer in Your Head | |
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| Sex and Guilt | |
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| Women, the Guilty Sex | |
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| How Guilt Disrupts Sexual Communication | |
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| The Urge for Variety | |
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| Thought Police | |
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| Religious Dams | |
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| Conspiracy of Silence: Programming the Collective Mind | |
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| Where Is the Outrage? | |
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| Institutional Accountability | |
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| Childhood Infection | |
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| Anesthetization of the Mind | |
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| Changing Times | |
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| Follow the Biology | |
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| Holy Biology | |
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| The Bible | |
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| The Koran | |
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| Other Holy Books | |
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| Unholy Biology: Busting the Monogamy Myth | |
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| Follow the Biology | |
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| Super Duck's Inflatable Penis | |
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| Ms. Wonder Duck Fights Back | |
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| Size Matters: The Gorilla | |
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| May the Best Sperm "Win: The Chimpanzee | |
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| The Feminine Mystique: The Bonobo | |
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| Humans: The Penis Puzzle | |
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| The Sex Partner Mystery | |
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| Mapping Your Sexuality | |
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| Your Invisible Map | |
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| The Three-Tiered Map | |
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| Tier One - Sex in Your Genes | |
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| Tier Two: Epigenetics - Your Genes on Drugs | |
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| Your Inner Female | |
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| Tier Three - Sex in Your Jeans | |
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| Learning Social Cues for the Map | |
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| Your Brain on Metaphors | |
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| Religious Mapping - The Two-Party Brain | |
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| Adult Maps | |
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| The Effect of Submission | |
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| Maps in Conflict | |
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| Follow the Culture | |
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| Sex Before God | |
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| Sex Before Buddha, Jesus or Mohammed | |
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| Preagricultural or Semiagricukural | |
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| The Hadza of Tanzania and the Rift Valley | |
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| Mangaians of Polynesia | |
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| The Na of China | |
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| Religious Dogma and Sex | |
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| Sex and Early Religion | |
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| Elimination of Hunter-Gatherer Religion | |
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| Religion and Sex in Early Agricultural Civilizations | |
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| Sacred Prostitutes and Gay Soldiers: Greek Sex | |
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| Don't Love Your Wife Too Much: Roman Sex | |
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| Yin and Yang But Only for Men: Chinese Culture | |
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| Where Are the Women? | |
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| The Scope of Human Sexuality | |
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| Modern Religions and the Misogyny of God | |
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| Double Standards | |
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| Western Religious Distortions | |
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| The Jewish Distortion | |
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| The Christian Distortion | |
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| Celibacy | |
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| The Muslim Distortion | |
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| An Invasive Species | |
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| The Psychology of Religion and Sex | |
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| The Tools of Distortion | |
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| The Rise of Universal Religions | |
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| How Religion Uses Disease | |
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| Death Neurosis and Sex | |
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| Scandalous Breasts: How Religion Sexualizes the Normal | |
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| Religion and Physical Marking | |
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| Male Circumcision | |
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| Female Circumcision, Genital Mutilation | |
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| Distorting the Sexual Map | |
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| Don't Tamper With the Factory! | |
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| Sex Education, the Biggest Threat to Religion | |
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| Life - A Balancing Act | |
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| Distortion of the Catholic Priesthood | |
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| 'Black Protestant Church Distortion | |
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| The Fundamentalist Distortion | |
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| The Mormon Distortion | |
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| What Happens When You Leave Religion | |
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| The Guilt Cycle and Various Denominations | |
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| Spanking the Monkey | |
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| Early Sexual Experience | |
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| Lust in Your Heart | |
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| Talk Dirty to Me | |
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| Sex After Religion | |
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| Residual Effects | |
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| Lessons From the Research | |
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| Relationship Cycles | |
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| New Relationship Energy (NRE) | |
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| Attachment | |
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| The Unwritten Rules of Marriage | |
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| Satiation: "Not Tonight, Honey; I Have a Headache" | |
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| Relationship Cycle | |
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| Mommy, Did You Have Sex Before You Married Daddy? | |
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| Children, Parents and Sex | |
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| Sex-Negative Messages to Girls | |
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| The Power of Oblique Communication | |
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| Guilt in Religious Marriage | |
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| The Poisoning of Men and Boys | |
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| :1 Didn't Raise Her That Way! | |
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| Three Sources of Personality Influence | |
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| The 50-0-50 | |
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| Religion and 50-0-50 | |
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| Sex on a Leash | |
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| Sexual Flexibility | |
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| Sociosexual Orientation | |
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| Sociosexual Orientation and Religion | |
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| Socio-Sexual Orientation and Relationships | |
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| "My Sex Drive Keeps Me From Jesus" | |
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| Unfaithful Pastors | |
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| Religious Infection and Depression | |
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| Dominance and Non-Dominance | |
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| Sexual Redirection and Thought Distortion | |
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| The Misbehaving Flock | |
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| Brainwashing Techniques for Evangelism | |
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| Two Steps to Delusion | |
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| Consequences for Future Generations | |
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| Program Yourself for a Change | |
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| A Framework | |
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| The Jesus Trap | |
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| The Jesus Trap Pattern | |
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| Bob's Story | |
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| Emotional Blackmail and the Jesus Trap | |
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| The Jesus Trap and Raising Children | |
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| The Psychology Behind the Jesus Trap | |
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| Strategies for Dealing With the Jesus Trap | |
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| What's Love Got To Do With It? | |
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| You are a Walking Conflict | |
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| Monogamy Is Not the Default Position | |
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| Imprisoned by the Religious Map | |
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| Marriage: One Size Does Not Fit All | |
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| Rethinking Marriage | |
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| Don't Let the Pope (or Any Clergy) Define Your Relationships | |
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| Jealousy: The Anti-Love Potion | |
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| Our Jealous Culture | |
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| Learning to Be Jealous | |
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| The Decline of Jealousy | |
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| Adolescent Jealousy | |
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| Jealousy Says More About the Jealous Person | |
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| Unpacking Jealousy | |
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| Sex Is a Precious Commodity | |
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| American Sex | |
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| Frubble or Compersion | |
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| What's The Big Idea? | |
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| The Tyranny of the "Shoulds" | |
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| The Mating of Souls | |
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| Your Cheatin' Heart - Escaping the Conceptual Prison | |
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| It's Not All About the Sex | |
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| Big Idea Number One: Challenge Hidden Assumptions | |
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| Big Idea Number Two: Be Honest With Yourself | |
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| Big Idea Number Three: You Are Normal | |
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| The End of Religion as We Know It | |
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| The Evolving Church | |
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| Almost Everyone Is Doing It | |
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| Sex, Religion and the Planet | |
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| A New Commandment Suggestion I Give You | |
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| Selected Biblioghraphy | |
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| Index | |
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| About the Author | |