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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction | |
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| The Method | |
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| Where the Method Comes From | |
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| Getting the Word Out | |
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| So, Relax | |
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| Seven Myths of Effective Parenting | |
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| Everything You Need to Know (Except How) | |
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| The Positive Opposite | |
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| Positive Reinforcement | |
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| Reinforced Practice | |
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| Shaping | |
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| Extinction | |
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| Putting It All Together: ABC | |
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| Q & A | |
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| Putting the Method in Place: Transitions, Tantrums, and a Very Young Child | |
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| Define the Problem and Its Positive Opposite | |
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| Get Started Right Away | |
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| What to Expect the First Week | |
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| Keys to Success | |
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| Your Six- to Twelve-Year-Old: Supermarket Scenes, Late for School, Sibling Squabbles, Homework Avoidance, and More | |
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| Supermarket Scenes | |
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| Late for School | |
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| Sibling Squabbles | |
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| Squabbling Friends | |
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| Homework Avoidance | |
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| Involving a Teacher | |
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| Your Preadolescent: Bad Attitude, Bad Language, Home Alone, and Much More | |
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| A Little Perspective | |
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| What's with Them? | |
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| Pushing the Limits | |
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| Family Values | |
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| The Art of Compromise | |
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| Adapting the Method to Preadolescents | |
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| Bad Attitude | |
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| Swearing | |
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| Messy Room | |
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| After School on His Own | |
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| Practicing an Instrument | |
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| Negotiating | |
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| Blowups and Everyday Life | |
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| Punishment: The Most Misunderstood, Misused, and Overused Tool in the Parental Toolbox | |
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| Multiple Motives Lead to Punishment Myths | |
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| Effects and Side Effects of Punishment | |
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| How to Punish | |
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| A Common Punishment: Time-Out | |
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| Special Situations: How to Jump-Start Behavior, Work with More Than One Child, and Handle Low-Rate Misbehaviors | |
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| Jump-Starting Behavior | |
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| Consequence Sharing | |
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| Group Programs | |
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| Low-Rate Programs | |
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| Troubleshooting | |
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| When You Need to Troubleshoot | |
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| Common Problems (and Quick Fixes for Them) | |
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| Troubleshooting the Basics | |
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| A Couple of Common Questions, Quickly Answered | |
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| Advanced Troubleshooting | |
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| Your Child's Wider World | |
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| Good Behavior for Good | |
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| Fading the Program | |
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| Transferring Behaviors to New Situations | |
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| You Already Did the Hard Part | |
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| Parenting Stress and Household Chaos | |
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| Parenting Stress | |
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| Effects of Parenting Stress on Parent and Child Behavior | |
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| Effects of Stress on Attachment | |
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| What to Do About Parenting Stress | |
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| Stress Research and Family Stories | |
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| Household Chaos | |
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| Seeking Professional Help for Yourself | |
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| Beyond the Method | |
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| When and Why the Program Doesn't Change Behaviors | |
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| Medication and Diet | |
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| Seeking Help for Your Child | |
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| Conclusion: Positive Parenting | |
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| Age-Appropriate Rewards for Children | |
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| Index | |