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| A Few Words of Thanks | |
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| Some Introductions | |
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| Yes, you Can do this! | |
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| Jewish Parenting--Not as Scary as it Sounds | |
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| Jewish Parenting Is Just Like Parenting! | |
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| Jewish Parenting Is Also About Our Own Journey | |
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| The Challenges We'll Face That Our Parents Didn't | |
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| We're All in This Together | |
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| How to Use this Book | |
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| The First Possibility: Read the Whole Book | |
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| A Better Idea? Don't Read the Whole Book! | |
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| Treat This Book as Yahoo.Com | |
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| There's a Mini-Dictionary, Too | |
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| No Reader Has to Be an Island | |
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| Some Concluding Thoughts | |
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| The Big Ideas | |
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| "Jewish Parenting 101"--Immersion, Memories, and Identity | |
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| Judaism at the Core | |
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| The Challenge of Contemporary America | |
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| Forging Identity--The Role of Immersion | |
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| Jewish Parents as Creators of Memories | |
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| The Memories We Can't Plan | |
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| And Finally, Identity | |
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| Using Jewish Life and Holidays to Create a Rhythm for Time | |
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| Jewish Life as Marking Time | |
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| The Cycles of Jewish Life | |
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| How to Put a Jewish Kid to Bed | |
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| New Traditions? | |
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| Moving Beyond the "Day" | |
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| The Space we Make for Feelings--Why Ritual Really Matters | |
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| The Spiritual Emptiness Jews Too Often Feel | |
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| Ritual as the Key to Judaism's Spirituality | |
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| Ritual as a Way of Elevating the Mundane | |
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| Other Jewish Rituals and Expressions of Closeness | |
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| Ritual Is Not Only About People ... | |
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| Making Space for God, or How we Steal Wonder from our Kids | |
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| The Importance of "God-Talk" | |
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| What Are Kids Asking When They Ask About God? | |
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| What Is "Honest" Parenting? | |
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| Now for God--How "Honest" Should We Be? | |
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| Bringing God into Our Homes | |
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| But Is God Really That Important? | |
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| A Godless Judaism Makes the Tradition a Stranger | |
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| But What If We're Sure We Don't Believe? | |
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| The Wonder of Shabbat | |
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| Shabbat--A Palace in Time | |
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| Ritual and the Magic of Shabbat | |
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| Shabbat as a Cosmic Wedding | |
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| Shabbat as a Glimpse of a Perfected World | |
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| Shabbat's Ritual as a "Subversive" Social Critique | |
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| But Does Shabbat "Work"? | |
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| Shabbat as the Anchor of the Jewish Week | |
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| How Much of This to Do? | |
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| The Most Important Thing Is to Begin | |
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| "Why do we have to?"--Getting over our Fear of Rules | |
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| They're Not the Ten Suggestions | |
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| Rules Show We're Serious | |
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| From Non-Negotiability to Constancy | |
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| Constancy Leads to Intensity | |
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| From Rules to Intermarriage | |
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| Rosh Chodesh and the "Jewish Moon"--the Challenge of Girls in a Male Tradition | |
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| Is God a Girl? | |
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| Can a Woman Be a Jew? | |
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| Where Do We Go from Here? | |
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| The Importance of Role Models, Again | |
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| The Importance of Ritual, Again | |
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| Danger Zone--Beware of Mixed Messages | |
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| Concluding Thoughts | |
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| "Don't Try this Alone"--it (Usually) Takes a Village | |
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| Communities in Jewish Life | |
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| Jews in Community--A Tradition That Goes Way Back | |
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| Your Synagogue--What Is It? | |
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| The Chavurah--Surrogate Family and Much More | |
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| Neighborhoods and Cities | |
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| Day School or Hebrew School? | |
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| Summer Camps | |
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| Youth Groups | |
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| Smaller Jewish Communities, Virtual Jewish Communities | |
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| Israel--Where Our Kids Learn What "Home" Really Is | |
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| The Worldwide Jewish Community | |
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| Grandparents: You Matter--A Lot! | |
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| "Don't Know Much About History" -- Why Our Story Should Matter to Our Kids | |
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| Beyond Memory--Learning to "Relive" the Past | |
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| Why History? Another Jewish Path Toward Identity | |
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| Do unto Others Before They Do unto You? | |
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| Israel--Where History Comes Alive | |
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| Back to Parenting | |
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| A Jewish Parent's Reference Guide | |
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| How to Use the "Reference Guide" Section | |
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| The Jewish Holiday Cycle -- A Parent's Perspective | |
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| The Jewish Calendar and Its Peculiarities | |
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| Rosh Ha-Shannah | |
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| The Fast of Gedaliah | |
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| Yom Kippur | |
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| Sukkot--The Feast of Tabernacles | |
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| Shemini Atzeret and Simchat Torah | |
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| Halloween: Is It a Jewish Issue? | |
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| Hanukkah | |
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| The December Dilemma | |
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| Tu Bi-Shevat | |
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| Purim | |
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| Passover | |
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| Counting the Omer | |
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| Lag Ba-Omer | |
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| Shavu'ot | |
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| The "Three Weeks" and the Minor Fasts | |
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| Tisha B'Av | |
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| From Destruction to Renewal | |
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| Modern Israeli Holidays | |
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| And the Seasons, They Go Round and Round | |
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| The Jewish Life Cycle, and Things to Think About at Each Stage | |
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| Celebration of Pregnancy | |
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| Miscarriage | |
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| The Moment of Birth | |
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| Birth Rituals for Boys | |
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| Birth Rituals for Girls | |
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| Starting School | |
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| They Call It Hebrew School | |
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| Bar/Bat Mitzvah | |
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| Does Bar Mitzvah Mean Graduation? | |
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| Puberty and Adolescence | |
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| Dating | |
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| Picking a College | |
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| Going to College | |
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| That First Apartment | |
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| Marriage and Weddings | |
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| Divorce | |
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| Death, Burial, and Mourning | |
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| A Final Thought | |
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| Conclusion | |
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| Of Models, Mermaids, and Music | |
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| Does Your Mailbox Know You're Jewish? | |
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| Judaism Can't Be Just for Kids | |
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| The Commitment Not to Undermine Each Other | |
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| Too Jewish--Overcoming That Nagging Fear | |
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| A Quick Bird's-Eye View of Jewish History | |
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| Glossary of Terms and Names | |
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| Suggestions for Further Exploration | |
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| Index | |