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| Preface | |
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| Human Intimacy in the Brave New World of Family Diversity | |
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| Building Successful Relationships | |
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| Qualities of Strong and Resilient Families: An Overview | |
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| Can We Study Intimacy? | |
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| Optimism versus Pessimism | |
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| Making Decisions That Lead to a Fulfilling Life | |
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| Logic and Emotion in Decision Making | |
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| Decision-Making Steps | |
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| The Gift of Choosing | |
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| Theoretical Approaches to Family Study | |
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| Methods of Study | |
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| The Experiment | |
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| The Survey | |
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| The Clinical Method | |
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| Natural or Field Observation | |
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| Highlight: Sherlock Holmes, Dr. Watson, and Delinquency Data | |
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| Group versus Individual Data | |
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| Strengthening the Family | |
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| Human Intimacy, Relationships, Marriage, and the Family | |
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| Family: The Basic Unit of Human Organization | |
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| Family Functions | |
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| The American Family: Many Structures and Much Change | |
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| Families Around the World: China: Families and Government Policy | |
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| Change within Continuity and Uniqueness within Commonality | |
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| Highlight: The Family Riddle | |
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| Highlight: Tricky Statistics: Cohabitation and Rejection of Marriage | |
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| Family: A Buffer against Mental and Physical Illnesses | |
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| The Need for Intimacy | |
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| Highlight: Why Do We Avoid Intimacy? | |
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| The Family as Interpreter of Society | |
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| Unique Characteristics of the American Family | |
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| Highlight: What the Research Says | |
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| Family: The Consuming Unit of the American Economy | |
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| American Families: A Great Diversity of Types | |
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| African American Families | |
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| Hispanic Families | |
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| Asian American Families | |
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| The American Indian and Alaska Native Population | |
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| Debate the Issues: Should Our Society Recognize Gay Marriages? | |
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| American Ways of Love | |
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| The American Myth: Romantic Love Should Always Lead to Marriage | |
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| Defining Love | |
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| Highlight: Love Is... | |
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| Theories of Love | |
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| Romantic Love | |
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| Making Decisions: Are You a Romantic or a Realist? | |
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| Infatuation | |
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| Loving and Liking | |
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| The Double Cross | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Love and Friendship | |
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| Love Is What You Make It | |
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| Highlight: Gender Differences in Love | |
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| Love in Strong Families: Appreciation and Respect | |
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| Learning to Love | |
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| Actions and Attitudes | |
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| Developmental Stages in Learning to Love | |
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| Love over Time: From Passionate to Companionate Love | |
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| Highlight: Love and the Loss of One's Self-Identity | |
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| Love's Oft-Found Companion: Jealousy | |
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| Debate the Issues: Are Love and Marriage Good for You? | |
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| Gender Convergence and Role Equity | |
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| Male = Masculine and Female = Feminine: Not Necessarily So | |
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| Norms and Roles | |
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| How Sex and Gender Identity Develop | |
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| Biological Contributions | |
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| Environmental Contributions | |
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| Gender Differences | |
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| Highlight: The Xanith of Oman | |
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| Role Equity | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Stereotypical Sex-Role Differences Compared with Research Findings | |
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| Traditional Gender Roles | |
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| Changing Male and Female Roles | |
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| Women and the Law | |
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| Families Around the World: The Dani of Irian Jaya (Indonesian New Guinea) | |
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| Highlight: "Firsts" for Women in the Past Three Decades | |
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| Gender-Role Stereotypes | |
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| The Movement toward Gender Equality | |
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| Highlight: Men as the Oppressed Sex | |
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| Debate the Issues: Can We Create Gender-Neutral Children? | |
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| Communications in Intimate Relationships | |
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| Good Communication: A Basic Strength of Successful Families | |
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| What Causes Communication Failure? | |
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| Aversive Communication | |
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| Communication Can Be Used for Good and Bad Purposes | |
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| The Foundation Blocks of Successful Communication | |
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| Commitment | |
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| Growth Orientation | |
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| Noncoercive Atmosphere | |
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| Developing a Smooth Flow of Communication | |
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| Communication Skills | |
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| Identifying Problem Ownership | |
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| Self-Assertion | |
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| Making Decisions: You-, I-, and We-Statements | |
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| Empathic Listening | |
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| Negotiating | |
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| Problem Solving | |
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| Men and Women: Do They Speak the Same Language? | |
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| Highlight: How Men and Women Can Communicate Better in Intimate Relationships | |
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| Communication and Family Conflict | |
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| Anger | |
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| Over What Topics Do Couples Conflict? | |
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| Family Life in the Information Age | |
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| Debate the Issues: Is Honesty Always the Best Policy? | |
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| Dating, Single Life, and Mate Selection | |
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| Premarital American Dating | |
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| Why Do We Date? | |
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| Premartial Dataing Patterns | |
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| College Dating: Hanging Out, Hooking Up, Joined at the Hip | |
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| Dating and Extended Singleness | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Women and Singleness | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Singles in America | |
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| Changing Sexual Mores | |
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| Deciding for Yourself | |
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| Freedom of Choice and Sexual Health | |
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| Possible Problems Associated with Premarital Sexual Relations | |
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| Highlight: Dawn and Nonmarital Pregnancy | |
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| Making Decisions: Is My Sexual Behavuior Healthy? | |
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| Date Rape and Courship Violence | |
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| Cohabitation: Unmarried-Couple Households | |
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| The Nature of Cohabiting Relationships | |
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| Is the Woman Exploited in Cohabitation? | |
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| The Relationship between Cohabitation and Marriage | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Children and Cohabitation | |
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| Breaking Up | |
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| Living Together and the Law | |
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| Making Decisions: Questions for Couples Contemplating Living Together | |
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| Finding the One and Only: Mate Selection | |
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| Background Factors | |
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| Individual Traits | |
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| Interactional Processes | |
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| From First Impressions to Engagement | |
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| Engagement | |
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| Types of Engagements | |
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| Functions of Engagement | |
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| Debate the Issues: Does Sex Education Prevent Pregnancy or Encourage Promiscuity? | |
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| Marriage, Intimacy, Expectations, and the Fully Functioning Person | |
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| Marriage Matters | |
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| The Transition from Single to Married Life | |
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| Marriage: A Myriad of Interactions | |
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| Fulfilling Needs in Marriage | |
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| Families Around the World: Marriage in Japan | |
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| Defining Marital Success | |
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| Strong Relationships and Families | |
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| Highlight: A Hectic Schedule | |
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| Marital Expectations | |
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| Highlight: Carol: The Perpetual Seeker | |
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| The Honeymoon Is Over: Too High Expectations | |
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| Romantic Love or Marriage? | |
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| Differing Expectations | |
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| Eighty Percent I Love You; Twenty Oercent I Dislike You | |
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| Highlight: Carl and Allison: The Perfect Couple | |
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| The Expectation of Commitment: A Characteristic of Strong and Successful Families | |
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| The Expectation of Primariness: Extramarital Relations | |
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| The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy | |
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| The Self-Actualized Person in the Fully Functioning Family | |
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| Characteristics of Mental Health | |
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| Self-Actualization | |
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| Living in the Now | |
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| The Goals of Intimacy | |
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| You and the State: Legal Aspects of Marriage | |
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| Writing Your Own Marriage Contract and Prenuptial Agreement | |
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| Highlight: Navajo Marital Expectations | |
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| Making Decisions: The Couple's Inventory | |
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| Debate The Issues: Is Marriage a Dying Institution? | |
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| Human Sexuality | |
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| Making Decisions: Sex Knowledge Inventory | |
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| Human Sexuality in the United States | |
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| Highlight: The Sambians of Papua | |
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| Changing Sexual Mores | |
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| Modiffying Sexual Behavior | |
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| Highlight:" What Role Should Sex Play in My Life?" Beth-Ann Asks | |
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| Differences between Male and Female Sexuality | |
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| Highlight: A Precoital Contract | |
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| Physiology of the Sexual Response | |
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| Female Sexual Response | |
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| Highlight: Female Genital Mutilation | |
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| Making Decisions: What Are Your Biggest Problems and Complaints about Sex? | |
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| Highlight: Describing Orgasm | |
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| Male Sexual Response | |
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| Variations in Sexual Response | |
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| Some Myths Unmasked | |
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| Does Sexual Addiction Exist? | |
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| Marital Sex: Can I Keep the Excitement Alive? | |
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| Highlight: One Husband's Sexual Life | |
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| Highlight: Sex and Physical Disability | |
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| Sex and the Aging Process | |
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| Menopause | |
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| Sex and Drugs | |
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| Sexually Transmitted Diseases | |
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| Debate Teh Issues: Pornography | |
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| Family Planning, Pregnancy, and Birth | |
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| Children by Choice | |
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| Are We Ready for Children? | |
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| Children Having Children | |
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| Family Planning Decisions | |
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| Deciding on a Contraceptive | |
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| Abortion | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Who Has Abortions? | |
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| Infertility | |
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| Prerequisites of Fertility | |
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| Causes of Infertility | |
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| Making Decisions: How Old Is Too Old? | |
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| Methods of Treatment: Designing Babies | |
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| Highlight: The Ultimate Breakthrough | |
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| Highlight: Who, in Fact, Are the Parents of Jaycee? | |
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| Pregnancy | |
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| Highlight: Am I Really Pregnant? | |
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| Pregnancy Tests | |
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| Environmental Causes of Congenital Problems | |
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| Controlling Birth Defects | |
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| Birth | |
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| Cesarean Birth | |
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| Highlight: Infant Mortality Rates | |
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| Birth Pain | |
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| Natural Childbirth | |
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| Rooming-In | |
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| Alternative Birth Centers | |
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| Home Births | |
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| Postpartum Emotional Changes | |
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| Debate the Issues: To Clone or Not to Clone | |
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| The Challenge of Parenthood | |
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| What Effects Do Children Have on a Marriage? | |
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| Highlight: The Highs and Lows of Parenthood | |
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| Traditionalization of the Marital Relationship | |
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| Parental Effectiveness | |
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| Highlight: Diversity in Child-Rearing Values and Practices | |
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| The Father's Role in Parenting | |
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| Television, Video Games, and the Internet as Surrogate Parents | |
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| Child Rearing, Discipline, and Control | |
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| Making Decisions: Using Discipline and Punishment Effectively | |
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| Spanking | |
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| The Growing Child in the Family | |
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| Infancy: The First Year | |
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| The Toddler: 2 to 3 Years of Age | |
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| Early Childhood: 4 to 5 Years of Age | |
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| School Age: 6 to 11 Years of Age | |
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| Puberty-Adolescence: 12 to 18 Years of Age | |
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| Highlight: To Tattoo or Not to Tattoo: Out Damned Spots! | |
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| The Young Adult: 19 to 30 Years of Age | |
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| Highlight: Adolescent Hormones and Brain Functioning | |
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| Highlight: Oh No, John Is Back Home Again | |
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| What Research Tells US: Young Adults Living with Parents | |
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| Broader Parenting | |
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| Parents without Pregnancy: Adoption | |
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| The Single-Parent Family | |
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| Highlight: Father Absence in African American Homes | |
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| Debate the Issues: Should Parents Stay Home to Rear Their Children? | |
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| Family Life Stages: Middle Age to Surviving Spouse | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Increasing Life Expectancy | |
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| Dealing with Change: Another Characteristic of the Strong, Healthy Family | |
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| The Graying of America | |
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| Middle Age: The Empty Nest | |
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| Highlight: How a Highly Trained Engineer Became a Bicycle-Repair Man | |
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| The Sandwich Generation: Caught in the Middle | |
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| Retirement | |
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| Widowhood as the Last Stage of Marriage | |
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| Highlight: Doctor's Wife | |
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| The Adjustment Process and Remarriage | |
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| Highlight: Remarriage after the Loss of a Spouse | |
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| Highlight: Death of a Young Wife: A Young Father Alone | |
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| The Grandparenting Role | |
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| Highlight: Becoming Parents Again after Your Children Are Raised | |
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| Older but Coming on Strong | |
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| Debate the Issues: Should Physicians Help Terminally Ill Patients Commit Suicide? | |
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| The Importance of Making Sound Economic Decisions | |
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| What Research Tells Us: GNI per Capita in Various Countries | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Median Income of Households and Families | |
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| Slowly Drowning in a Sea of Debt | |
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| What Research Tells Us: How Much Do Americans Owe? | |
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| Making Decisions: Compare Your Attitudes about Money | |
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| Making Good Credit, Borrowing, and Installment-Buying Decisions | |
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| Discount Interest: Consumer Purchases | |
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| Simple Interest: Home Loans | |
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| Financial Problems and Marital Strain | |
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| The Seductive Society: Credit and Advertising | |
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| Effective Money Management | |
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| To Pool or Not to Pool Family Money? | |
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| Allocation of Funds: Who Makes the Spending Decisions? | |
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| Budgeting: Enlightened Control of Spending | |
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| Making Decisions: How to Budget Your Income | |
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| Saving through Wise Spending | |
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| Making Decisions: Budget Worksheet | |
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| The Economy and Black, Hispanic, Asian American, and Single-Parent Families | |
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| Inflation and Recession | |
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| Inflation | |
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| Families Around the World: Mexico: The Middle-Class Family | |
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| Periods of Reduced Inflation and Mild Recession | |
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| Deciding What Insurance Is Needed | |
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| Medical Insurance | |
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| Automobile Insurance | |
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| Home Owner's Insurance | |
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| Life Insurance | |
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| Deciding to Buy a Home | |
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| The Decision to Invest | |
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| Highlight: You Can Still Make a Million Dollars | |
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| Debate the Issues: Credit: The Way to Economic Well-Being, or a Slavery System? | |
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| The Dual-Worker Family: The Real American Revolution | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Women in the Workforce | |
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| Women and the Economy | |
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| Job Opportunities for Women | |
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| Pay Differentials between Men and Women | |
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| Making the Decision to Become a Two-Earner Family: The Wife Goes to Work | |
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| The Working Wife's Economic Contribution to the Family | |
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| Community Service and the Working Wife | |
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| Household Activities and Supermothers | |
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| Deciding in Favor of Part-Time Work | |
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| Child Care and Parental Leave | |
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| Stay-at-Home Moms | |
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| Employers, Pregnant Employees, and Working Mothers | |
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| Home-Based Work | |
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| Marital Satisfaction in the Two-Earner Family | |
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| Work and Family: Sources of Conflict | |
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| Jobs, Occupations, and Careers | |
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| Dual-Career Families | |
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| Commuter Marriage and/or the Weekend Family | |
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| Debate The Issues: Is Sexual Harassment in the Workplace Pervasive? | |
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| Family Crises | |
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| Coping with Crises | |
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| Stress: Healthy and Unhealthy | |
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| Highlight: Types of Stressor Events | |
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| Crisis Management | |
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| Defending against Harmful Stress | |
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| Highlight: Agencies That Can Help with Various Crises | |
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| Defense Mechanisms | |
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| Death in the Family | |
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| Natural Causes | |
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| Ambiguous Loss | |
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| Suicide and Homicide | |
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| Firearm Mortality | |
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| Grief and Bereavement | |
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| Accidents, Injuries, and Catastrophic Illness | |
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| Making Decisions: The Case of the Weinstein Family | |
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| Family Violence | |
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| Violence between Partners | |
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| Child Abuse | |
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| Sibling Abuse | |
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| Highlight: Repressed Memories of Incest | |
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| Peer Abuse | |
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| Parental Abuse by Children | |
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| Factors Associated with Family Violence | |
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| Poverty and Unemployment | |
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| Children and Poverty | |
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| The Military Family in the Time of War | |
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| Drug and Alcohol Abuse | |
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| Drugs and Drug Abuse | |
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| Alcohol | |
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| Debate the Issues: Should Drugs Be Legalized? | |
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| The Dissolution of Marriage | |
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| Let No One Put Asunder | |
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| What Research Tells Us: Divorce Facts | |
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| Reasons for America's High Divorce Rate | |
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| Emotional Divorce and the Emotions of Divorce | |
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| Highlight: Not One Divorce but Six | |
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| Highlight: Divorce: Constant Self-Questioning | |
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| Divorce but Not the End of the Relationship | |
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| Making Decisions: What Changes Must Be Made with Divorce? | |
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| Problems of the Newly Divorced | |
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| Economic Consequences | |
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| Children and Divorce | |
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| What Research Tells Us: The Children of Divorce | |
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| Types of Child Custody | |
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| Highlight: Divorce and Dad | |
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| Divorce: The Legalities | |
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| Some Cautions about No-Fault Divorce | |
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| Divorce Counseling and Mediation | |
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| Reducing Divorce Rates | |
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| Divorce May Not Be the Answer | |
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| Debate the Issues: Should Couples Stay Together for the Sake of the Children? | |
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| Remarriage: A Growing Way of American Life | |
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| Returning to Single Life | |
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| Cohabitation as a Courtship Step to Remarriage | |
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| Remarriage: Will I Make the Same Mistakes Again? | |
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| Highlight: Bob, Carol, Ted, and Alice | |
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| Family Law and Stepfamilies | |
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| Child-Support Obligations | |
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| Custody and Visitation of Stepchildren | |
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| His, Hers, and Ours: The Stepfamily | |
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| Highlight: How to Ruin a Remarriage | |
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| Highlight: The Ten Commandments of Stepparenting | |
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| Weekend Visits of the Noncustodial Child | |
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| Dealing with Sexuality in the Stepfamily | |
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| Highlight: How Much Closer Can We Get? | |
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| The New Extended Family | |
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| Building Stepfamily Strengths | |
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| The Prenuptial Agreement | |
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| Mediation to Settle Conflicts and Other Prevention Programs | |
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| Debate the Issues: Fatherless America: Can a Stepfather Take the Place of a Biological Father? | |
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| Actively Seeking Marital Growth and Fulfillment | |
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| "And They Lived Happily Ever After" | |
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| Highlight: Economic Success, Marital Failure | |
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| Highlight: Self-Improvement, Marital Failure | |
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| Marriage Improvement Programs | |
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| Guidelines for Choosing Marriage Improvement Programs | |
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| Highlight: A Family Life Enrichment Weekend | |
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| An Ounce of Prevention Is Worth a Pound of Cure: Marriage Enrichment | |
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| Highlight: Marriage Encounter | |
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| Marriage with Purpose: Effective Management | |
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| In the Future, the Family Will Remain and Diversify | |
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| Sexually Transmitted Diseases | |
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| Contraceptive Methods | |
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| Glossary | |
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| References | |
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| Credits | |
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| Author Index | |
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| Subject Index | |