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| Introduction | |
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| Getting Started | |
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| How You Play the Game | |
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| Pretending It Isn't a Game | |
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| Playing the Game Safely and within Bounds | |
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| Working Hard | |
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| Doing the Work of Others | |
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| Working without a Break | |
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| Being Naive | |
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| Pinching Company Pennies | |
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| Waiting to Be Given What You Want | |
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| Avoiding Office Politics | |
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| Being the Conscience | |
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| Protecting Jerks | |
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| Holding Your Tongue | |
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| Failing to Capitalize on Relationships | |
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| Not Understanding the Needs of Your Constituents | |
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| How You Act | |
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| Polling Before Making a Decision | |
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| Needing to Be Liked | |
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| Not Needing to Be Liked | |
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| Not Asking Questions for Fear of Sounding Stupid | |
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| Acting Like a Man | |
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| Telling the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth (So Help You God) | |
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| Sharing Too Much Personal Information | |
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| Being Overly Concerned with Offending Others | |
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| Denying the Importance of Money | |
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| Flirting | |
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| Acquiescing to Bullies | |
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| Decorating Your Office Like Your Living Room | |
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| Feeding Others | |
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| Offering a Limp Handshake | |
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| Being Financially Insecure | |
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| Helping | |
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| How You Think | |
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| Making Miracles | |
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| Taking Full Responsibility | |
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| Obediently Following Instructions | |
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| Viewing Men in Authority as Father Figures | |
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| Limiting Your Possibilities | |
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| Ignoring the Quid Pro Quo | |
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| Skipping Meetings | |
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| Putting Work Ahead of Your Personal Life | |
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| Letting People Waste Your Time | |
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| Prematurely Abandoning Your Career Goals | |
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| Ignoring the Importance of Network Relationships | |
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| Refusing Perks | |
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| Making Up Negative Stories | |
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| Striving for Perfection | |
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| How You Brand and Market Yourself | |
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| Failing to Define Your Brand | |
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| Minimizing Your Work or Position | |
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| Using Only Your Nickname or First Name | |
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| Waiting to Be Noticed | |
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| Refusing High-Profile Assignments | |
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| Being Modest | |
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| Staying in Your Safety Zone | |
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| Giving Away Your Ideas | |
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| Working in Stereotypical Roles or Departments | |
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| Ignoring Feedback | |
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| Being Invisible | |
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| How You Sound | |
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| Couching Statements as Questions | |
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| Using Preambles | |
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| Explaining | |
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| Asking Permission | |
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| Apologizing | |
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| Using Minimizing Words | |
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| Using Qualifiers | |
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| Not Answering the Question | |
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| Talking Too Fast | |
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| The Inability to Speak the Language of Your Business | |
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| Using Nonwords | |
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| Using Touchy-Feely Language | |
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| The Sandwich | |
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| Speaking Softly | |
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| Speaking at a Higher-than-Natural Pitch | |
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| Trailing Voice Mails | |
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| Failing to Pause or Reflect Before Responding | |
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| How You Look | |
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| Smiling Inappropriately | |
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| Taking Up Too Little Space | |
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| Using Gestures Inconsistent with Your Message | |
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| Being Over- or Underanimated | |
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| Tilting Your Head | |
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| Wearing Inappropriate Makeup | |
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| Wearing the Wrong Hairstyle | |
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| Dressing Inappropriately | |
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| Sitting on Your Foot | |
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| Grooming in Public | |
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| Sitting in Meetings with Your Hands under the Table | |
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| Wearing Your Reading Glasses around Your Neck | |
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| Accessorizing Too Much | |
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| Failing to Maintain Eye Contact | |
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| How You Respond | |
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| Internalizing Messages | |
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| Believing Others Know More than You | |
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| Taking Notes, Getting Coffee, and Making Copies | |
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| Tolerating Inappropriate Behavior | |
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| Exhibiting Too Much Patience | |
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| Accepting Dead-End Assignments | |
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| Putting the Needs of Others Before Your Own | |
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| Denying Your Power | |
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| Allowing Yourself to Be the Scapegoat | |
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| Accepting the Fait Accompli | |
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| Permitting Others' Mistakes to Inconvenience You | |
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| Being the Last to Speak | |
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| Playing the Gender Card | |
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| Tolerating Sexual Harassment | |
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| Crying | |
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| Appendix Personal Development Planning and Resources | |