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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Foreword | |
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| Introduction: This Program Is Different | |
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| Making a Loving Connection | |
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| Keeping a Loving Connection | |
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| A Loving Connection: Guidance Instead of Control | |
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| To Survive We Must Have an Emotional Connection | |
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| Children Will Connect Any Way They Can | |
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| Making Things Better May Not Be Loving | |
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| Being With Your Children So They Won't Feel Alone | |
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| The Simple Mechanics of a Loving Connection | |
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| The Power of Empathy | |
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| What's Getting in Your Way? | |
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| The Pain of Empathizing | |
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| Parental Disappointment | |
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| Parental Anger | |
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| Are You a Thermostat or a Thermometer? | |
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| Parental Guilt | |
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| Give Yourself a Break | |
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| It's What You Do After What You Did | |
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| Practice a Reflective Response | |
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| Answers Using Reflective Responding | |
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| Homework | |
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| The Wonder of Play: Speaking Your Child's Language | |
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| Collecting Toys for Special Playtime | |
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| What Happens in Special Playtime Can Stay in Special Playtime | |
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| Behavior Is an Expression of Feelings and Thoughts | |
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| Entering Your Child's World | |
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| Tracking Your Child's Behavior | |
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| Practice Tracking | |
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| Answers Using Tracking | |
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| Nonverbal Language | |
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| Goals of the Play Session | |
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| Choosing a Time | |
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| Choosing a Place | |
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| Videotaping | |
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| Adapting Special Playtime to Babies | |
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| Adapting Special Playtime to Teens | |
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| Adapting Special Playtime to Special Needs Children | |
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| Is There Meaning in Children's Play? | |
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| Review of Previous Homework | |
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| Homework | |
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| A Window to Your Child's Inner World | |
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| Set the Stage | |
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| From Order to Chaos | |
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| The Only Limits | |
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| It's Important | |
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| No Interruptions | |
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| Beginning the Session | |
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| Reflect Feelings and Track Behavior | |
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| Returning Responsibility | |
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| Show Me What Happens When You Try | |
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| Offering Assistance | |
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| Self-Esteem Building Responses | |
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| Ending the Play Session | |
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| Evaluating Your Sessions | |
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| Are You Ready? | |
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| Review | |
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| Answers to Review | |
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| Play Session Transcripts | |
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| A Child Who Wants to Please | |
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| A Rebellious Child | |
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| Practice Play Session Scenarios | |
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| Review of Previous Homework | |
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| Homework | |
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| Promoting Your Child's Emotional Maturity | |
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| Emotions as a Guide | |
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| How Emotions Take Over Your Life | |
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| All Emotions Are Related to Our Desire for Personal Power | |
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| Emotions and Morality | |
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| Sitting With Emotions | |
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| Teaching Instead of Punishing | |
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| Setting Limits With Love and Compassion | |
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| Why It's Worth It | |
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| Delaying Gratification and Increasing Frustration Tolerance | |
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| Promoting Security | |
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| No One Can Do It All the Time | |
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| Guidelines for Expressing Difficult Emotions | |
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| Practice ACT | |
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| ACT Answer Sheet | |
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| Review of Previous Homework | |
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| Homework | |
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| Your Child's Place in Your Heart | |
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| Beyond Dysfunction | |
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| Practicing Fascination | |
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| Review the Videotapes | |
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| Set the Stage for a Structured Play Session | |
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| Body Language | |
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| Lean Forward and Appear Interested | |
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| Allow the Child to Lead | |
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| Returning Responsibility | |
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| Tracking | |
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| Reflective Responding | |
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| Seeing the World Through Your Child's Eyes | |
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| Matching and Mirroring | |
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| Review of Previous Homework | |
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| Homework | |
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| Gaining Your Child's Respect | |
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| Treating Others With Respect Scenario | |
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| Chore Scenario | |
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| In- and Out-of-Bed Scenarios | |
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| Homework Scenario | |
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| Horse Sense | |
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| Choice-Giving and Decision Making | |
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| Practice Choice-Giving | |
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| Answers to Choice-Giving Practice | |
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| Review of Previous Homework | |
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| Homework | |
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| Connecting With Your Child | |
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| "I'm Worried About What My Child's Play Might Mean" | |
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| Don't Let Your Excuses Get in Your Way | |
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| "My Child Just Wants Attention" | |
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| "My Child Is Trying to Manipulate Me" | |
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| "What About Discipline?" | |
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| "I Don't Have Time for This" | |
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| "No One Understands" | |
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| "I'm Worried I'm Not Doing It Right" | |
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| Analyzing the Transcript | |
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| "How Is Understanding My Feelings Different From Reacting to Them?" | |
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| Are You Still Grieving Your Own Childhood? | |
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| Identifying Your Own Emotional Issues | |
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| Review of Previous Homework | |
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| Homework | |
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| Nurturing Your Child's Inner Wisdom | |
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| Three Conditions for a Healthy Relationship | |
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| Making Love Conditional | |
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| Praise, the Language of Evaluation | |
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| A Misunderstanding of Self-Esteem | |
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| Ideal Self versus Real Self | |
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| I Love You, No Matter What | |
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| Valuing Not Evaluating | |
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| You're Already Doing It | |
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| I'll See the World Through Your Eyes | |
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| I'll Be Honest | |
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| Everyone Matters | |
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| Let Your Children Know They Matter | |
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| Review of Previous Homework | |
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| Homework | |
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| Facilitating Your Child's Healing | |
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| Play Themes | |
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| Helping Your Child Move On | |
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| Giving Your Child Fairy Godparents | |
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| Structured Doll Play | |
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| Structured Doll Play for Loss and Trauma | |
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| Sand Play | |
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| Frequently Asked Questions | |
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| Answers to Frequently Asked Questions | |
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| What Are Your Questions? | |
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| Review of Homework | |
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| Homework | |
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| You Did It! | |
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| Child Behavior Inventory | |
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| Parent Behavior Inventory | |
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| "Where Do I Go From Here?" | |
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| "How Do I Know If My Child Needs a Therapist?" | |
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| "How Do I Know If I Need Therapy?" | |
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| A Word About Medication | |
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| Your Child's Diagnosis | |
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| Notes | |