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| Introduction | |
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| Mysteries of the Life Cycle | |
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| Madness and Method | |
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| Is There Life After Youth? | |
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| Predictable Crises of Adulthood | |
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| Two Couples, Two Generations | |
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| The Developmental Ladder | |
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| Pulling Up Roots | |
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| Breast to Breakaway | |
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| Our Merger and Seeker Selves | |
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| The Inner Custodian | |
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| Breaking Away from the Inner Custodian | |
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| A First Solo Flight | |
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| Playing It to the Bust | |
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| "If I'm Late, Start the Crisis Without Me" | |
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| Seeking an Idea to Believe In | |
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| Which Model, Hero, or Heroine to Copy? | |
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| "What Am I Going to Do with My Life?" | |
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| The Urge to Merge | |
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| All You Need Is Love | |
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| The Piggyback Principle | |
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| Jailbreak Marriage | |
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| Openings | |
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| The Complete-Me Child | |
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| Compulsory Graffiti | |
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| The College Woman | |
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| Finding My "True Self" | |
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| Beginnings of the Couple Puzzle | |
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| The Trying Twenties | |
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| Getting off to a Running Start | |
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| I Should Be... | |
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| The Power of Illusions | |
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| One True Course in Life | |
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| The One True Couple | |
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| Going Through Changes... | |
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| Why Do Men Marry? | |
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| Safety | |
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| To Fill Some Vacancy in Themselves | |
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| To Get Away from Home | |
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| Prestige or Practicality | |
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| Why Can't a Woman Be More Like a Man and a Man Less Like a Racehorse? | |
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| The Bad Old Days | |
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| The Brave New Days | |
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| Fear of Success | |
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| Fear of Softness | |
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| Looking Past Our Noses | |
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| Sneak Preview: Men and Women Growing Up | |
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| The Responsive Man | |
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| The Initiating Woman | |
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| Passage to the Thirties | |
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| Catch-30 | |
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| Catch-30 and the Couple | |
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| The Testimonial Woman | |
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| Wives' Work | |
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| Closed-Dyad Disease | |
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| Rooting and Extending | |
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| The Couple Knot, the Single Spot, the Rebound | |
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| The Couple Knot | |
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| The Single Spot | |
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| The Rebound | |
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| But I'm Unique | |
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| Men's Life Patterns | |
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| The Transient | |
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| Locked In | |
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| The Wunderkind | |
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| Never-Married Men, Paranurturers, and Latency Boys | |
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| Integrators | |
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| Women's Life Patterns | |
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| The Caregiver | |
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| Either-Or | |
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| The Nurturer Who Defers Achievement | |
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| The Achiever Who Defers Nurturing | |
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| Late-Baby Superachievers | |
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| Integrators | |
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| Never-Married Women | |
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| Transients | |
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| Deadline Decade | |
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| Setting off on the Midlife Passage | |
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| Seeing the Dark at the End of the Tunnel | |
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| Change in Time Sense | |
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| Change in Sense of Aliveness versus Stagnation | |
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| Change in Sense of Self and Others | |
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| De-Illusioning the Dream | |
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| Groping Toward Authenticity | |
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| From Disassembling to Renewal | |
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| Riding Out the Downside | |
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| You Are in Good Company | |
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| The Creative Crisis | |
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| The Spiritual Crisis | |
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| The Difference Between Midlife and Middle Age | |
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| The Age 35 Survey | |
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| The Crossroads for Women | |
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| The Re-potting of Priscilla Blum | |
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| The Age 40 Crucible | |
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| The Middle Manager | |
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| The Corporate Wunderkind | |
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| Letting Go of the Impossible Dream | |
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| The Joys of Caring | |
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| The Problems of Generativity | |
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| The Courage for a Career Change | |
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| The Turnaround | |
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| Switch-40s and the Couple | |
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| Correcting Disparities in the Dream | |
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| The Envied Wife | |
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| Where Have All the Children Gone? | |
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| Mother's Release from the Nest | |
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| The Second Wind of the Citizen-Soldier | |
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| The "Who's Crazy?" Argument | |
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| Whodunit? | |
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| The Sexual Diamond | |
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| Facing the Facts of Male and Female Sexual Life Cycles | |
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| The Diverging Sexual Life Cycles | |
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| The Educated Male Orgasm | |
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| The Curious Ups and Downs of Testosterone | |
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| Mysteries of the Climacteric | |
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| Sex and Menopause | |
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| Living out the Fantasy | |
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| The Change-of-Life Affair | |
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| Busting Out | |
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| Living out the Reality | |
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| Renewal | |
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| Renewal | |
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| New Veins of Energy | |
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| A No-Panic Approach to Physical Aging | |
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| Redefined Attitudes Toward Money, Religion, and Death | |
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| Companionship or a Zest for Aloneness | |
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| Approval of Oneself at Last | |
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| Afterword | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Notes and Sources | |
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| Bibliography | |
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| Index | |