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| Author's Note | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| What Do Men Want? | |
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| It's a Guy Thing | |
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| Are You Prepared for Another Life? | |
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| But I'm Not Ready! | |
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| The Need to Know and the Fear of Knowing | |
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| The Eight-Hundred-Pound Gorilla | |
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| The New Map of Adult Life | |
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| The Wife's Nightmare | |
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| What to Do with All This Leftover Life? | |
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| Flourishing Forties | |
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| Why Do I Still Feel Like a Kid? | |
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| The Vanity Crisis | |
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| A Flagrant Freedom | |
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| The Father-Son Midlife Power Struggle | |
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| When You Comin' Home, Son? | |
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| The Dead Father | |
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| The Midlife Delinquent | |
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| Manhood on Trial | |
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| Yuppie Playing Catch-up | |
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| Banker "Excessed" at Home | |
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| The Sole Breadwinner's Insecurities | |
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| The Idealist's Angst | |
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| A Hard Time to Be a Man in His Forties | |
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| Confronting the "False Self" | |
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| Are You What You Smoke? | |
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| "The Big Impossible" | |
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| The Reluctant Father | |
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| First Fatality Jitters | |
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| Moving Up the Mortality Markers | |
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| Honor Among Men | |
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| Manly Sports: More Than Just a Game | |
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| Current Manhood Models | |
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| Married and Mortal | |
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| The Aha! Moment | |
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| The Heart of the Matter | |
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| The Stonewaller's Defense | |
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| The Trouble with Wives | |
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| Fearless Fifties | |
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| Passage to Your Second Adulthood | |
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| The Samson Complex | |
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| Mature Masculinity | |
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| Former Pro Football Star | |
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| Geezer in Graduate School | |
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| Globe-trotting Journalist Turns Gardener | |
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| The Fearless Professor | |
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| Beyond Power | |
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| Barry Diller's Search for Self | |
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| Prospero's Passage | |
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| Welcome to the Age of Influence | |
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| Redirect Your Life Before the Hammer Falls | |
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| The Dark Night of Joe O'Dell | |
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| Destructive Defenses | |
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| The Comeback of Joe O'Dell | |
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| They'll Never Fire Me | |
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| The Rebirth | |
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| The Window of Opportunity | |
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| Midlife Money Realities | |
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| What Could Spook John Wayne? | |
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| Give Up "I'm the Big Shot" | |
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| Building a Team | |
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| Opening the Spiritual Dimension | |
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| Find Your Passion and Pursue It | |
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| Love and War with Wives, Fathers, Children | |
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| From Competing to Connecting | |
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| Gender Crossover: Comfort or Crisis? | |
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| Coaching the Coach | |
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| Withholding Sex | |
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| The Safety Net Wife | |
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| Making the Crossover Work | |
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| Brain-Sex Changes | |
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| Mellowing Out | |
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| Empty Heart | |
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| Mr. Mom | |
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| Father Hunger | |
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| Letting Go of a Growing Son | |
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| How Many Men Friends Can You Count? | |
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| The Nest Is Empty -- Are You Ready for Love in the Morning? | |
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| Who's Afraid of Male Menopause? | |
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| The Male Sexual Life Cycle | |
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| Magical Expectations | |
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| The Male Sexual Life Cycle | |
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| The Unspeakable Passage | |
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| Men Behaving Intelligently | |
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| Mind over Manliness | |
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| Secrets of Perpetual Virility | |
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| Would You Rather Have Steak and a Smoke Than Be a Sexual Athlete? | |
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| Magic Bullets | |
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| When Sunday-Afternoon Football Is Better Than Sex | |
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| Free Testosterone! | |
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| DHEA: A Man's Master Hormone | |
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| Chemical Machismo | |
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| Couples Work | |
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| The Testimonial Woman | |
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| Teaming Up to Find the Right Treatment | |
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| Influential Sixties | |
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| Passage to the Age of Integrity | |
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| Secrets of Well-being in the Sixties | |
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| Imagining the Paul McCartney Retirement Home | |
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| Don't Retire! Redirect! | |
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| Looking for Your Postcareer Career | |
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| His and Her Retirement Fantasies | |
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| Progress Versus Despair | |
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| The Black Tempest | |
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| Don't Back Up, Severe Tire Damage! | |
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| Help Is Not Hard to Get | |
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| I Am Not Having a Heart Attack! | |
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| Absorbing the Blows of Fate | |
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| What Keeps a Man Young? | |
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| Unconventional Wisdom | |
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| Do Men Have to Die Earlier Than Women? | |
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| Unretired Champions | |
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| Growing and Regenerating Brain | |
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| Spiritual Hunger | |
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| Love in the Twilight of Life | |
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| A Lusty Winter | |
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| Appendices | |
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| Appendix A | |
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| Passage to Your Second Adulthood | |
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| Coping with Job Loss | |
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| Strategies for Surviving Job Loss in Middle Life | |
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| Resources: Career Counselors | |
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| Appendix B | |
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| Love and War with Wives, Fathers, Children | |
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| Resources: Couples Therapy | |
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| Appendix C | |
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| Secrets of Perpetual Virility | |
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| Shopping for a Doctor/Male Health Clinic | |
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| Resources: Physicians and Therapists for Sexual Health Issues | |
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| Appendix D | |
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| Passage to the Age of Integrity | |
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| Preretirement Couples Exercises | |
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| Appendix E | |
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| Progress Versus Despair | |
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| Warning Signs of Depression | |
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| Bibliography | |