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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Introduction | |
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| What Should You Do First? | |
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| Divorce Is Like Riding an Escalator... | |
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| ...While Also Climbing Up Some Very Steep Stairs | |
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| Divorce Comes in Many Different Forms | |
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| Get Organized as Soon as Possible | |
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| The Corporate Wife | |
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| The Wife as Alpha Earner | |
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| What Is the First Step? | |
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| The Five Emotional Stages of Divorce | |
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| The Emotional Stages of Divorce | |
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| A Maze of Emotions: Depression, Anger, and Lack of Control | |
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| Pre-Divorce | |
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| Decision | |
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| Final Acceptance | |
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| Mourning | |
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| Re-Equilibrium | |
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| Most Often Asked Questions About Divorce | |
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| How to Choose the Divorce Process That Best Suits You | |
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| Differences Between States Are Important | |
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| Which Method Is Best for Your Situation? | |
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| Frequently Asked Questions About Hiring an Attorney | |
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| Checklist for the Initial Meeting with Your Attorney | |
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| Janice's Decision: Mediation | |
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| The Financial Implications of Contemporary Relationships | |
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| Why We Get Divorced | |
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| Contemporary Relationships | |
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| Lessons Learned | |
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| Living with Change Does Not Mean Dealing with an Enemy | |
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| No Fraternization! | |
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| Don't Talk to Him About the Divorce Case on Your Own | |
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| Don't Let Him Come Between You and Your Lawyer | |
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| Watch Out for Late-Night Telephone Calls | |
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| What Not to Talk About | |
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| Dealing with Your Husband | |
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| What Determines the Cost of the Divorce? | |
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| Using Multiple Experts | |
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| Working with a Team | |
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| Uncooperative Spouses | |
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| Complications with Children | |
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| A Road Map for Divorce | |
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| Preparation: 0 to 30 Days | |
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| Initiation: 0 to 60 Days | |
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| Analysis and Planning: 30 Days to 9 Months | |
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| Negotiation-Settlement: 30 to 60 Days | |
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| Implementation: 30 to 90 Days | |
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| Document Roundup List | |
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| Your Decisions to Make | |
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| The Budget Process | |
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| Budgeting Session One | |
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| Budgeting Session Two | |
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| Budgeting Session Three | |
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| Budgeting Session Four | |
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| Budget Maintenance | |
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| Postdivorce Budget Questions | |
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| Cash Management System-Today and in the Future | |
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| Protecting Yourself Financially During and After Divorce | |
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| Identity Theft and Divorce | |
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| Protect Your Credit Report | |
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| The Best Defense Is Vigilance | |
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| Closing In on Disparity: A New Era Deserves A New Divorce Model | |
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| New Era Needs a New Model | |
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| Alimony Theories: Old and New | |
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| Cultural Trends and Their Effect on Divorce | |
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| Securing an Equitable and Stable Postdivorce Life | |
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| Case Studies | |
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| Recommendations for Settlement Proposals | |
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| An Ultimate Solution to the Disparity of Earnings? | |
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| Financial and Tax Checkpoints Along the Way to the Property Settlement | |
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| What Will Postdivorce Life Be Like? | |
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| Sale of the Family Residence-Are You Money Poor and House Rich? | |
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| Tax Considerations of Other Assets in Divorce | |
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| Income Tax Returns | |
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| Divorced Women, Pensions, and Avoiding Poverty in the Golden Years | |
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| Retirement Benefits Are Not What They Used to Be | |
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| How to Value a Pension Benefit | |
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| Retirement Assets Divided with a QDRO | |
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| Retirement Assets Divided Without a QDRO | |
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| Other Types of Retirement Plans | |
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| Accessing Retirement Funds Postdivorce | |
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| Preparing for Life After Divorce: Restricted Securities, Insurance, Housing, Debt, and Estate Planning | |
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| Stock Options and Restricted Stock | |
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| Reviewing Your Insurance Needs | |
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| Adjusting Maintenance for Inflation | |
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| Postdivorce Housing Issues | |
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| Dividing Debt | |
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| Divorce and Bankruptcy | |
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| Estate Planning During and After Divorce | |
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| Prenuptial Agreements as a Component of Retirement Plans | |
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| Women and Investing | |
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| What Does Money Mean to You? | |
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| Bonds Versus Stocks-To "Loan" or to "Own"? | |
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| Risk Versus Return | |
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| Retirement Funds: How Much Is Enough? | |
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| When to Change Investment Options | |
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| Ready to Invest? | |
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| Choosing a Financial Advisor | |
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| Summary of Basic Investment Tips for Women | |
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| Some Final Thoughts | |
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| The Economically Disadvantaged Spouse: Case Study-Jake and Judith Jessup | |
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| Long-Term Marriage and Divorce: Case Study-Gerald and Barbara Hudson | |
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| The Role of the Career Specialist in Divorce | |
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| Notes | |
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| Glossary | |
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| Resources | |
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| Index | |