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Acknowledgments | |
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Preface | |
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What Excellent Mentors Do: Matters of Skill | |
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Select Your Proteges Carefully | |
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Be There | |
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Know Your Proteges | |
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Expect Excellence (and Nothing Less) | |
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Affirm, Affirm, Affirm, and Then Affirm Some More | |
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Provide Sponsorship | |
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Be a Teacher and a Coach | |
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Encourage and Support | |
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Shape Behavior Using Reinforcement | |
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Offer Counsel in Difficult Times | |
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Protect When Necessary | |
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Stimulate Growth with Challenging Assignments | |
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Give Proteges Exposure and Promote Their Visibility | |
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Nurture Creativity | |
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Provide Correction-Even When Painful | |
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Give the Inside Scoop | |
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Narrate Growth and Development | |
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Self-Disclose When Appropriate | |
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Accept Increasing Friendship and Mutuality | |
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Teach Faceting | |
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Be an Intentional Model | |
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Display Dependability | |
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Traits of Excellent Mentors: Matters of Style and Personality | |
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Exude Warmth | |
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Listen Actively | |
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Show Unconditional Regard | |
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Respect Privacy and Protect Confidentiality | |
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Tolerate Idealization | |
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Embrace Humor | |
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Do Not Expect Perfection | |
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Attend to Interpersonal Cues | |
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Be Trustworthy | |
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Respect Values | |
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Do Not Stoop to Jealousy | |
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Arranging the Mentor-Protege Relationship: Matters of Beginning | |
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Carefully Consider the "Match" | |
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Clarify Expectations | |
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Establish Measurable Goals | |
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Define Relationship Boundaries | |
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Consider Protege Relationship Style | |
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Describe Potential Benefits and Risks | |
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Be Sensitive to Gender | |
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Be Sensitive to Race and Ethnicity | |
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Foster Mentoring Constellations | |
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Plan for Change at the Outset | |
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Schedule Periodic Reviews or Evaluations | |
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Knowing Thyself as a Mentor: Matters of Integrity | |
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Consider the Consequences of Being a Mentor | |
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Practice Self-Care | |
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Be Productive | |
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Resist Cloning | |
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Make Sure You are Competent | |
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Hold Yourself Accountable | |
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Respect the Power of Attraction | |
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Accept the Burden of Power | |
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Practice Humility | |
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Never Exploit Proteges | |
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Balance Advocacy with Gate-Keeping | |
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When Things Go Wrong: Matters of Restoration | |
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Above All, Do No Harm | |
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Slow Down the Process | |
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Tell the Truth | |
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Seek Consultation | |
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Document Carefully | |
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Dispute Your Irrational Thinking | |
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Welcoming Change and Saying Goodbye: Matters of Closure | |
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Welcome Change and Growth | |
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Accept Endings | |
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Find Helpful Ways to Say Goodbye | |
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Mentor as a Way of Life | |
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References | |
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Index | |