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| Introduction: Courageous Parenting-Taking the Long View | |
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| Authentic Success: It's Not About Bleeding Hearts Versus Tiger Moms | |
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| The Kids Are Not Alright (and Neither Are Their Parents) | |
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| How Did We Get into This Mess? | |
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| The "School Years" are Not Just About Academics: A Primer on Child Development | |
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| The Tasks of the Elementary School Years: Ages 5-11 | |
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| Learning How to Make Friends and Be a Friend | |
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| Becoming Competent and Excited About Learning | |
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| Developing a Sense of Self: Who Am I? | |
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| Becoming an Empathic Person | |
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| Remembering to Play | |
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| General Recommendations for Parenting Your Elementary School Age Child | |
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| The Tasks of the Middle School Years: Ages 11-14 | |
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| Navigating Puberty | |
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| Staying Healthy | |
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| Building Independence | |
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| Building a Peer Group | |
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| Note to Parents | |
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| The Tasks of the High School Years: Ages 14-18 | |
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| Becoming an Adult Thinker | |
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| Learning to Manage Sexuality | |
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| Building a Sense of Identity | |
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| Developing Autonomy | |
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| The Resilience Factor: Seven Essential Coping Skills | |
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| Teaching Our Kids to Find Solutions | |
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| Resourcefulness: "I can handle this" instead of "Mom …" | |
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| Enthusiasm: "I love this" instead of "Whatever" | |
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| Creativity: "Let's look at this differently" not "What's the right answer?" | |
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| A Good Work Ethic: "I'm going to keep at it" instead of "I quit" | |
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| Teaching Our Kids to Take Action | |
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| Self-Control: "It just doesn't feel right" instead of "All the kids are doing it" | |
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| Self-Esteem: "I feel good about myself" instead of "I suck" | |
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| Self-Efficacy: "I can make a difference" instead of "Nothing I do matters" | |
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| Walking the Talk | |
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| Defining and Living Your Family Values: a Paper and Pencil Exercise | |
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| What Are Your Core Values? | |
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| Family Values Statement | |
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| Your Guiding Principles | |
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| The Family Action Plan | |
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| Editing the Script: Becoming the Parents We Want to Be | |
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| Denial: "Problem? What problem?" | |
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| Projection: "Yeah, they've got a problem, not me" | |
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| Peer Pressure: It's Not Just for Teenagers | |
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| Is Parenting Hereditary? "I can't believe I sound just like my mother" | |
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| The Trinity of Change: Self-Reflection, Empathy, and Flexibility | |
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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Notes | |
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| Index | |