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| A Note to Readers | |
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| Introduction | |
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| The Mundane Is Heroic | |
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| See Possibilities Where Others See Obstacles | |
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| Set Rules for Conflict | |
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| Anyone Can Find a Happy Relationship | |
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| It's Not How Hard You Try | |
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| You Have Nothing to Envy | |
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| Attitude Triumphs over Outcome | |
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| Don't Be Bound by Tradition | |
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| The Past Is Not the Future | |
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| No One Wins the Comparison Game | |
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| See the Love Around You | |
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| Doing Nothing Is Rarely a Solution | |
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| You'll Forget the Disagreement but Remember the Disagreeing | |
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| Pursue What You Need Forever, Not What You Want Today | |
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| Seek Harmony in Your Life | |
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| The Relationship Test: Are You Lonely? | |
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| It's the Little Things That Matter the Most | |
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| A Relationship Requires Two Equals | |
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| Beware of Fairy Tales | |
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| Cultivate a Common Interest | |
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| Treat the Disease, Not the Symptom | |
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| There's No Point in Putting On a Show | |
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| You Make Your Own History | |
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| Maintain Your Sense of Control | |
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| Money Can't Buy Love, but It Can Buy Stress | |
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| There Are No Mind Readers | |
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| There's No Need to Hurry | |
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| Friends Speak from Experience-Their Own | |
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| Drink Less | |
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| Decide Whether You Want to Win or Be Happy | |
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| A Sense of Humor Helps | |
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| Think Beyond the Engagement | |
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| See the Friendship in Your Relationship | |
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| The Most Time Is Not the Best Time | |
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| Reduce TV Time | |
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| The World Will Intrude on Your Relationship | |
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| Gentlemen Prefer the Same Things Ladies Prefer | |
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| Love Is Blind but Life Isn't Always | |
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| Balance Depends on Which Way You Lean | |
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| A Relationship by Any Other Name Is Just as Important | |
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| The Future Matters More Than the Past | |
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| You Don't Have to See Eye to Eye on Everything | |
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| Be Open with Each Other | |
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| Accentuate the Positive in All Aspects of Your Life | |
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| It Helps to Be Friends | |
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| Foundations Are Created in the Beginning | |
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| Ambivalence Is a Negative | |
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| Share Housework | |
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| A Relationship Starts with Yourself | |
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| Let Go of the Burden of Pain | |
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| Develop a Healthy Calm | |
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| Think of Your Own Ideal | |
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| Stay Flexible | |
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| Think About Potential | |
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| Even in a Relationship, You Are Still an Individual | |
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| Rest Up-This Is Going to Take Some Effort | |
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| Like the Way You Look | |
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| Don't Romanticize the Past | |
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| Share the Praise and Share in the Blame | |
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| You Can't Find Without Looking | |
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| Meaningful Commitment Is Mutual Commitment | |
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| Friendships Predict Relationships | |
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| Prepare for Milestones | |
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| Don't Bring Your Job Home with You | |
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| We Assume Similar Preferences | |
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| Don't Let Secrets Eat You Up | |
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| To Find a Better Way, Look Where You've Been | |
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| Money Matters Less over Time | |
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| Recognize the Value of Shared Values | |
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| Understand What You're Looking For | |
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| Never Let Faults Stand for the Whole | |
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| You'll Need Some Relationship Friends | |
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| Don't Wait to Start Moving in the Right Direction | |
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| Music Can Bring Us Together | |
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| Define What You Need | |
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| Show You Care, Even When It's Hard To | |
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| Make Your Decisions for Positive Reasons | |
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| A Relationship Is Built on a Foundation of Support | |
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| The Pieces of Your Life Must Fit Together | |
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| Master Your Fears | |
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| We Are All Much More Alike Than Different | |
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| Limit Your Interest in the Past | |
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| Get Your Reality from Reality | |
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| You Are Never Too Old to Find Love | |
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| We Look Inward to See How People Feel About Us | |
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| Be Willing to Evolve | |
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| Connect, See You're Capable, and Know You Count | |
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| Reliability Counts a Lot | |
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| You Are Complete by Yourself Intensity Fades | |
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| Intensity Fades | |
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| Beware Second Opinions | |
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| Have Faith but Don't Forget Reality | |
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| Pay Attention | |
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| Nice People Don't Finish Last | |
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| Relationships Are like Modern Art | |
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| It's Not Easy, Even if It Looks It | |
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| Most People Are Looking for Experienced Rookies | |
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| It's for You-or It Isn't | |
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| See the Horizon, Watch Your Step | |
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| The Search for Perfection Is Endless | |
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| Sources | |
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| Acknowledgments | |