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| Acknowledgments | |
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| Preface | |
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| Introduction: That's When the Lightbulb Went On | |
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| Private Life | |
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| Public Life | |
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| The Two of You Together | |
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| Etiquette-The Pathway to a Better Relationship | |
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| So, What Exactly Is Etiquette? | |
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| The Three Factors That Affect Every Relationship | |
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| The Three Principles of Etiquette | |
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| When Manners Are No Guide | |
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| Not Thinking Versus Thinking | |
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| Etiquette Behind Closed Doors | |
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| Letting Etiquette Guide the Way | |
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| Making It Work-Just the Two of You | |
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| Communication-The Glue That Holds a Relationship Together | |
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| The Importance of Saying "I Love You" | |
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| Beyond "I Love You": The Etiquette of Effective Communication | |
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| The Art of Listening | |
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| Your Tone of Voice Matters, Too | |
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| Written Communication | |
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| The Importance of Nonverbal Communication | |
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| The Signals We Send | |
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| Communicating Through Touch | |
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| Thoughtful Gestures Make All the Difference | |
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| Making Coffee for Your Partner | |
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| Massages and Rubbing | |
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| Hugs | |
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| Flowers | |
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| Giving Your Partner Time Off | |
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| Going Along for the Ride | |
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| Be an Active Listener | |
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| The Power of Sharing | |
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| Milestones and Special Days | |
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| Celebrating Anniversaries and Birthdays | |
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| Valentine's Day and Mother's/Father's Day | |
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| "It's Tuesday" | |
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| Ladies Snore, Too (Bedroom Etiquette) | |
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| Our Bedroom...or My Bedroom? | |
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| Sex and Etiquette | |
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| Children Change Everything | |
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| Relationships and Pregnancy | |
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| "There's No Time for 'Us' Now" | |
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| Resolving Child Care Inequity | |
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| Discipline: The Importance of Being on the Same Page | |
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| The Empty Nest Syndrome? | |
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| Financial Issues | |
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| Bank Accounts: Joint or Separate? | |
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| Stress and Finances | |
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| Making Decisions the Hard Way | |
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| Divvying Up the Chores | |
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| Chores Strengthen Your Relationship | |
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| Appreciating Each Other's Contributions | |
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| The Importance of Flexibility | |
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| Survey Says: It's All a Matter of Perception! | |
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| The Bottom Line | |
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| Leisure Time | |
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| The Importance of Doing Things Together | |
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| The Importance of Doing Things Alone | |
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| The Importance of Doing Things Together Alone | |
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| Your Special Place | |
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| Date Night, Part 1 | |
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| Date Night, Part 2 | |
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| The Power of Surprises | |
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| Negotiating Your Social Schedule | |
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| A Night at the Opera | |
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| Leisure Time at Home | |
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| The Art of Compromise: It Won't Always Be Fifty-Fifty | |
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| When Reasonable People Disagree | |
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| Pick Your Battles Carefully | |
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| Bridges You Don't Want to Cross | |
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| When Mount Anger Erupts | |
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| Not Always Fifty-Fifty, Revisited | |
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| Don't Let Peas Turn Into Boulders | |
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| How to End It and Move On? | |
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| Four Steps to Resolving Disagreements | |
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| The Two of You in the World | |
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| The Public Couple | |
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| The 24/7 Partner | |
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| Why Manners Matter, Revisited | |
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| Dissing Doesn't Work | |
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| Your Friends, My Friends, Our Friends | |
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| Staying in Touch When You're in a New Relationship | |
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| Making New Friends Together | |
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| Boys'/Girls' Night Out | |
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| Out on the Town | |
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| Who's-Going With Us? | |
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| Deal-Breakers | |
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| Failing to Observe the Niceties | |
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| Paying the Check | |
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| When It's Time to Go | |
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| At a Party | |
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| Before You Get There | |
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| Avoiding Conversational Blunders | |
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| Being Good Partners | |
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| Being Good Guests | |
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| "Say Good Night, Gracie" | |
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| Entertaining at Home | |
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| Planning Your Party | |
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| The Devil Is in the Details | |
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| Being the Gracious Host | |
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| Entertaining Houseguests | |
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| Extended-Family Dynamics | |
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| Smooth Merge, or Crash and Burn? | |
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| The Holiday Season | |
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| Work-The Other Significant Other | |
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| Working Together | |
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| Work Life Versus Home Life: A Constant Struggle | |
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| When Careers Collide | |
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| Office Parties and Other Events | |
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| Business Trips | |
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| The Home Office | |
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| Vacations and Leisure Time | |
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| All Work and No Play Makes for a Dull Relationship | |
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| On the Road | |
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| Trains, Planes, and Automobiles (Being Considerate Travelers) | |
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| Memo to Selves: Have Fun With Each Other | |
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| The Ugly American | |
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| Traveling With Other People | |
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| Special Occasions | |
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| Getting Hitched | |
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| The Honeymoon | |
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| Afterword | |
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| Index | |