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| Thinking About Living Together | |
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| The State of the Union | |
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| A Quickie Look at a Century of Matrimony | |
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| The Strong Winds of Social Change | |
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| Marriage in the New Millennium | |
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| Controlling the Winds of Change | |
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| Champions of Marriage | |
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| Times Are Changing | |
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| The Scoop on Live-In Love | |
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| A Bit More History | |
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| The Climate for Change | |
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| Serving Live-In Love | |
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| From Hollywood to Hoboken, Guess Who's Moving In | |
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| International Appetites for Live-In Love | |
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| Why Joe and Jane Are Moving In | |
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| Do Live-In Lovers Find Satisfaction? | |
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| How Live-In Love Impacts Family and Kids | |
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| A Forecast for Live-In Love | |
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| The Facts and Fictions of Living Together | |
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| Truth or Consequences, a Self-Test | |
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| Commitment with a Capital "C" | |
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| Marriage, Living Together, and Commitment | |
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| The Great Debate | |
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| Differences Between Marriage and Living Together | |
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| If It Isn't Marriage, What Is It? | |
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| Dispelling Fictions | |
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| How Significant Is a "Significant Other"? | |
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| Special Risks for Women | |
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| Women at a Disadvantage | |
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| Self-Testing Your Risk Factor | |
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| Desperation, an Element of Probable Risk | |
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| Low Self-Esteem, an Undeniable Risk | |
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| Reported Risks | |
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| Risky Scenarios | |
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| One Last Warning | |
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| Unique Concerns for Men | |
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| Separating the Boys from the Men | |
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| For Divorced Men Only | |
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| Sex on the Mind | |
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| Women Who Spell Trouble | |
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| Men Who Have Been Had | |
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| Men as Serial Live-Ins | |
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| Learning to Evaluate Risk | |
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| Playing It Safe | |
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| Playing for Marriage | |
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| Playing with Finesse | |
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| Cohabitor or Marriage Partner? | |
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| Which Cohabitors Become Marriage Partners and Why | |
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| Games You Don't Want to Play | |
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| Misunderstandings: Innocent and Intentional | |
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| Safest Calls | |
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| What Makes These Folks Special? | |
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| The Best of Live-In Love | |
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| Coming Up with a Decision on Live-In Love | |
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| Devising Romantic Motives and Lovers' Agendas | |
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| Learning to Make Good Decisions | |
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| Applying Good Decision-Making to Love Relationships | |
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| Decision-Making for Two | |
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| Implications of Romantic Partnership Decisions | |
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| Deciding on Romantic Motives | |
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| The Art of Agenda Making | |
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| Managing Love's Growth | |
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| Uncovering Your Partner's Agenda | |
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| Is Moving In on Your Agenda? | |
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| Sizing Up Potential Gains or Losses | |
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| Creating a Menu of Opportunity | |
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| Opportunity Qualifiers | |
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| Getting Out of a Live-In Relationship | |
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| When Moving Out Turns Ugly and Spiteful | |
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| Testing for Potential Losses | |
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| Minimizing Potential Losses | |
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| Tools for Rethinking a "Golden Opportunity" | |
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| The Power of Love | |
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| Love, the Big Motivator | |
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| Uncovering Cupid's Secrets | |
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| Growing Into Love | |
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| The Fatal Attraction | |
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| Love's Unrealistic Idols | |
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| What Is Love at Its Best? | |
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| Is It Love? | |
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| Identifying Love Styles | |
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| Love Style Choices | |
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| Finding Out Your Love Type | |
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| A Trio of Reality Checkups for Love | |
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| Mutually Exclusive or Mutually Necessary? | |
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| Coming Up Empty on the Love Front | |
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| Partnership Potential | |
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| The Compatibility Factor | |
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| The Core of Compatibility | |
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| Sexual Compatibility: You Gotta Have It! | |
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| Putting Out the Brushfires | |
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| Communicating with Purpose | |
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| Getting Ready to Move In | |
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| Pre-Empting Disaster | |
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| Your Relationship Histories--Past, Present, and Future | |
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| Charting Relationship Histories | |
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| Are Some Historical Facts Better Left Unsaid? | |
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| The Art of Making the Deal | |
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| Rules of Engagement | |
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| Important Discussions You Just Can't Afford to Put Off | |
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| Readiness Quiz | |
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| Cold Feet | |
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| The Cohabitation Agreement and Other Sticky Legal Issues | |
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| Common-Law Marriage: a Relic of the Past | |
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| What Exactly Is a Cohabitation Agreement? | |
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| Musts for Cohabs | |
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| Imagine This Predicament | |
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| Getting Around Legal Shortcomings | |
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| The Truth About Home Buying | |
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| Practical Measures to Protect Life, Limb, and Pocketbook | |
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| A Critical List of Nevers | |
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| The Irony of Another Legal Web | |
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| Drawing Floor Plans | |
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| Whose Place? Yours, Mine, or Ours? | |
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| Convening Your Economic Summit | |
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| How Significant Is the Other? | |
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| Drawing Kids Into the Floor Plan | |
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| Dealing with the Ex-Spouse | |
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| Setting the Alarm Clock on Live-In Love | |
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| Finding the Best Building Materials | |
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| What's in Your Tool Kit? | |
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| New Nuts and Bolts | |
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| A New Way to Look at Love | |
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| There Is No Substitute for a Healthy Relationship | |
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| Beware of Poor Foundations | |
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| Too Much Disparity of Style | |
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| Warm Beds Are Off-Limits | |
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| Jealousy, Infidelity, and Mistrust | |
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| Flooding a Partner with Bad Vibes | |
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| Two Faulty Joints | |
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| The Danger of Setting Poor Precedents | |
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| A Case of Poor Precedents | |
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| A Foundation Safety Recheck | |
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| Living Under One Roof | |
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| A New Lifestyle Vocabulary | |
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| Becoming "We" | |
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| Making a Home "Ours" | |
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| Committing to Practical Maneuvers | |
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| Coupling: Unveiling a New Duo | |
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| Growing Into the Word "Couple" | |
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| Interdependence: Converging Into One Now and Then | |
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| Living-Together Etiquette | |
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| Etiquette for the Sake of Harmony | |
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| What Is Etiquette? | |
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| Starter Set of Etiquette, Live-In Style | |
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| Etiquette, Room by Room | |
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| Etiquette for a Sound Relationship | |
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| Unsettled Issues of Etiquette | |
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| Family Matters | |
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| Uncharted Territory | |
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| Adding Your Own Rules of Etiquette | |
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| Smart Moves | |
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| Simple Do's | |
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| Simple Don'ts | |
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| Four Essential New Moves | |
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| Spoilers in the Fine Art of Living Together | |
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| Reasonable Expectations | |
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| Precarious Live-In Expectations | |
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| Keeping Love's Embers Warm | |
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| Beginners Guide to Love Talk | |
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| The Power of Love Messages | |
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| Sending Messages of Love | |
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| Time for Creative Thinking | |
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| Romantic Overtures | |
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| What to Do About Dormant Emotions | |
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| Responsive Love Acts | |
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| Sex, Sex, Sex | |
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| The Challenge of Couples' Sex | |
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| Gender and Sex: Let's Get the Record Straight | |
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| Sex Facts You Should Be Familiar With | |
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| Common Complaints, Simple Answers | |
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| Tips to Alleviate Boredom | |
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| Sexual Communication | |
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| Your Sexual Rule Book | |
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| If the Roof Caves In | |
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| Sensing Trouble in Hearth and Home | |
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| Measuring Live-In Happiness | |
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| Obvious Troublemakers | |
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| Searching for the Roots of Trouble | |
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| Too Much or Too Little Synergy | |
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| Signs of Troubles | |
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| Absolute Relationship Breakers | |
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| What's Best for You? | |
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| Household Survival Tactics and Patching Materials | |
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| Objectivity Is the Critical Factor | |
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| In Which Bed Does Your Problem Lie? | |
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| How Couples Change | |
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| Calling a House Meeting | |
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| Three Quick Steps to Improving Home Atmosphere | |
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| Designing Checks and Balances | |
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| Getting Out the "For Sale" Sign | |
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| The Dynamics of Breaking Up Your Live-In Relationship | |
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| Stop Wasting Time! | |
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| Telling Time | |
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| Astrological Corroboration: Yes or No? | |
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| Are You Stuck in the Muck? | |
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| Avoiding Moving-Day Disaster | |
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| Moving Out Isn't Going to Be Easy | |
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| Planning Your Departure | |
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| Do's and Don'ts for After the Fact | |
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| A Victim's Departure | |
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| When Kids Are Involved | |
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| Facing Raw Emotions | |
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| Moving Toward the Altar | |
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| Marriage Material--His, Hers, Theirs | |
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| Is Your Live-In Marriage Material? | |
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| Laboratory Predictors of Marital Success | |
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| Compare Your Marital Risk Factors | |
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| Upgrading Your Live-In Mindset | |
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| Going for an Educated Mindset | |
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| The Transition from Live-In to Marriage | |
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| WARNING LABEL: Mandatory Reading | |
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| Ripe and Ready Junctures | |
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| Crossing Over the Line | |
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| Revising Expectations | |
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| Making a Fresh Start | |
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| Buying Marriage Protection | |
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| Your Personal Transition Worksheet | |
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| Newlyweds and Marriage Management | |
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| Newlyweds vs. Live-Ins | |
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| Before You Take Your Vows | |
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| The Marital Roller Coaster | |
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| Marriage Prerequisites | |
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| An Active Role | |
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| What Makes Marriage Work? | |
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| Use Secret Strategies | |
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| Marriage Truths | |
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| Appendixes | |
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| Men Who Abuse Women | |
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| Stress Busters | |
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| Premarital and Relationship Courses | |
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| Glossary | |
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| Index | |