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| Preface | |
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| Acknowledgements | |
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| Planning Your Speech | |
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| When You Realise You Have to Make a Speech | |
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| Fast facts | |
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| Fail to plan - plan to fail | |
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| What is it about making a speech that causes us to become so fearful? | |
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| It's a control thing | |
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| Summary | |
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| Who Says What and When | |
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| Great expectations | |
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| The beautiful bride vs the beautiful game | |
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| What to do and say | |
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| The father of the bride | |
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| Key features of the father of the bride's speech | |
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| The groom | |
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| Key features of the groom's speech | |
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| The best man | |
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| Key features of the best man's speech | |
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| Summary | |
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| The Golden Rules: What Makes a Memorable Speech | |
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| Just do it! | |
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| Using notes | |
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| Be creative and different | |
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| Communicate with the guests | |
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| Mention guests by name | |
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| Using humour | |
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| How to decide what sort of humour to use | |
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| Telling stories | |
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| Why are stories so effective? | |
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| The golden rules | |
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| Summary | |
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| The Biggest Sin of All - Being Boring | |
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| Best man | |
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| Father of the bride | |
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| How to tell if the guests are bored | |
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| The drunk best man | |
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| Some thoughts on alcohol consumption | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| Rehearsing Your Speech | |
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| Impromptu wedding speeches | |
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| Rehearsal techniques | |
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| Tips to aid preparation and rehearsal | |
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| Visualise yourself delivering a great speech | |
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| Tips on visualisation rehearsals | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| The Big Day | |
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| Presentation is Everything | |
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| The story of Jim and Laura | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| Confidence and Relaxation | |
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| Who gets the most nervous? | |
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| Tackling those nerves | |
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| Tips to help build your confidence | |
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| Pretend you are confident | |
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| Use famous quotations in your speech | |
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| Look out for people you know well | |
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| Go on - smile if it kills you! | |
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| Talk out loud | |
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| Look the part | |
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| Rehearse | |
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| Boost your feeling of authority | |
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| Remember that we all make speeches every day without realising it | |
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| How to relax before your speech | |
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| More tips to make you feel relaxed and comfortable | |
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| Breathe | |
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| A breathing exercise | |
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| Make happy memories work for you | |
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| Take a walk | |
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| Avoid caffeine | |
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| Surviving the worst case scenario | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| Scripts, Notes and Cue Cards | |
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| My tips for using notes | |
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| Mind maps� | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| Be Yourself | |
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| The Father of the Bride | |
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| The general role of the father of the bride | |
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| Dad no. 1: Mr quiet | |
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| Private moments | |
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| Dad no. 2: Mr embarrassing | |
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| Tips for the father of the bride | |
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| Act as the warm up man | |
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| Introductory remarks | |
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| The weather | |
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| The guests | |
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| So far so good | |
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| Welcome the groom's family | |
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| Get the groom's name right | |
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| The story of Mark Anthony | |
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| Do not embarrass your ex-wife | |
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| Use of humour | |
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| Look to the future | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| The Groom | |
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| Entertainment value | |
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| Remember it's not a competition | |
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| What else should you include? | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| The Best Man | |
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| Embarrass but do not humiliate the groom! | |
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| Messages from those unable to attend | |
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| Making the toast | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| The Mother of the Bride and the Mother of the Groom | |
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| Mothers' impromptu speeches | |
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| Do the mothers need any particular speaking skills? | |
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| When might the mothers speak? | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| The Bride | |
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| When should the bride speak? | |
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| A little preparation goes a long way | |
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| What should the bride say? | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| Speaking Tips for Different Character Types | |
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| Tips for very shy people | |
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| Keep it short and sincere | |
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| Don't try to be funny | |
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| Smile | |
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| Have a glass of champagne | |
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| Express affection | |
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| Look at someone you know well | |
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| Use notes | |
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| Don't look down | |
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| Practise reading out loud | |
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| Practise your speech | |
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| Don't fiddle! | |
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| Visualise everyone smiling | |
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| Tips for very confident people | |
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| Speak slowly | |
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| Keep it short - don't ramble on and on and on | |
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| Don't have too much to drink | |
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| Be sincere | |
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| Don't mention too many people no one knows | |
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| Don't shout | |
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| Don't talk about yourself | |
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| Watch your step! | |
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| Tips for very nervous people | |
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| One drink only | |
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| Deep breaths | |
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| Smile and laugh | |
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| Rehearse | |
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| Use of notes | |
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| Tell people that you are nervous | |
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| Oh, what the hell - here goes | |
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| Final thoughts | |
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| Using Ready-made Material | |
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| Some useful quotations | |
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| Sarcastic marriage quotes | |
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| A Final Toast! | |
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| Remember the 5cs | |
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| Clarity | |
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| Confidence | |
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| Conviction | |
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| Connection | |
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| Compassion | |
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| Anything else? | |
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| Prepare it | |
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| Enjoy it | |
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| Rehearse it | |
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| Pace it | |
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| Mean it | |
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| Postscript | |
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| Resources | |
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| Sample mind map� | |
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| Index | |